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Australia’s much-loved TV star, radio host, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer opens up more than ever before

Abbie Chatfield’s latest suite of live shows is called the Trauma Dump Tour for a good reason – the name is surprisingly literal. After a rambunctious opening performance from RuPaul’s Drag Race Down Under runner-up Art Simone singing the Angels’ classic ‘Am I Ever Gonna See Your Face Again’ (prompting the obligatory audience response of “no way, get fucked, fuck off”), things get more serious, and fast.

Chatfield begins the show with quite the content warning, a process she repeats throughout the night, before taking a deep breath and sharing some capital ‘V’ vulnerable stories that many of her friends don’t even know. This is not the same version of Ms Chatfield we saw at last year’s A Hot Night tour, but that’s definitely not a bad thing.

Instead, what we see from Chatfield’s live tour 2.0 is a recount of her life so far peppered with stories of the various “trauma inflictors” she’s encountered in her dating life… and boy, do these anonymous men live up to the label. From being dumped on a rock in South Africa as part of The Bachelor , to a frankly scary movie-worthy experience during her hospo era, Chatfield sure has been through it. Who would have thought it would all end up being repurposed as a bonding experience for thousands of people across the country?

Many Australians (myself included) have a parasocial relationship with Chatfield, and she knows it. She dances onto the Palais Theatre stage blurting “I have so much to tell you!” as if we’re all her besties on FaceTime. Despite the huge room, we were eating up the intimate energy.

Chatfield encourages the audience to text her during the show with questions, in case there are any gaps in her stories. She says they’re so outlandish that she has to keep convincing herself they really happened. But from the sounds of it, most of us are just texting to say we love her, especially when things take a darker turn. 

Matt Agnew (the former bachelor who dumped her on the aforementioned rock) is sitting a few rows in front of me, much to Chatfield’s surprise and delight. He too chimes in with supportive cheers at opportune moments. It’s clear that Chatfield knows her audience and she has us totally in thrall. In fact, when she apologises for running overtime, several people scream for her to keep going.

As I head to the bathroom halfway through I pass women crying tears both happy and sad with their friends, with phrases like “she’s so relatable” and “I just love her” echoing around the expansive foyer. 

The Trauma Dump Tour is an emotional rollercoaster for Chatfield and her fans alike, but it’s safe to say we’re all glad we jumped onboard. Chatfield’s stories are an important reminder that even though women often encounter more frogs than princes, there will always be the promise of joy around the corner. After all, as the queen of over-sharing herself says, she “sold out the fucking Palais!”. 

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Abbie chatfield is bringing the trauma dump tour to melbourne in may.

"Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.”

She’s getting it off her chest on a national level: Australian television star, author, podcaster and chronic oversharer Abbie Chatfield is heading across the country for a five-date tour this April and May. Catch her when she brings The Trauma Dump tour to St Kilda’s own Palais Theatre for a heartfelt and hilarious show on April 28.

Abbie Chatfield The Trauma Dump tour

• April 28 – Palais Theatre, Melbourne
• May 5 – Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide
• May 12 – Perth Concert Hall, Perth
• May 18 – QPAC, Brisbane
• May 27 – Enmore Theatre, Sydney

Stay up to date with what’s happening in and around the region  here . 

“I had an absolute blast sharing stories and opening the conversation with audiences on the A Hot Night… tour in 2022,” says Abbie Chatfield. “So I thought it’s time to unleash my nightmare fuel and offload traumatic relationship stories with you in 2023!”

  View this post on Instagram   A post shared by ABBIE CHATFIELD (@abbiechatfield)

Abbie Chatfield is an Australian reality television personality. She first came to prominence after appearing on the seventh season of The Bachelor Australia, where she was a contestant vying for the affections of Matt Agnew. Since then, she has appeared on multiple other reality shows including Bachelor in Paradise and I’m a Celebrity…Get Me Out of Here! Chatfield is also a model and influencer, with a large social media following.

“Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.”

It all goes down on April 28 at Melbourne’s own Palais Theatre. Tickets go on sale from Thursday, Febuary 2, grab them when they become available by heading  here .

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Abbie Chatfield announces ‘The Trauma Dump Tour’

• Australian TV star, host, ambassador, entrepreneur, author, podcaster and chronic over-sharer,  Abbie Chatfield,  today announces  The Trauma Dump Tour  
• Five theatre shows confirmed for  April –   May 2023  playing  Melbourne, Adelaide, Perth, Brisbane  and  Sydney
• Frontier Members  pre-sale 10am local  Thursday 2 February
• General public tickets on sale 10am local  Monday 6 February  
• Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield  

Frontier Touring  are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer,  Abbie Chatfield,  will tour the country on  The Trauma Dump Tour throughout  April  and  May 2023.

The Trauma Dump Tour  will kick off at the  Palais Theatre, Melbourne  on  Friday 28 April  before heading on to  Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide  on  Friday 5 May,  then continuing west playing  Perth Concert Hall  on  Friday 12 May , onto  Queensland Performing Arts Centre (QPAC)  on  Thursday 18 May  before a final hometown show at the  Enmore Theatre Sydney  on  Saturday 27 May.

Frontier Members  will have access to pre-sale tickets from  10am local time  on  Thursday 2 February  ahead of the general public on sale from  10am local time Monday 6 February.  Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with! On top of her highly successful  It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield  (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show  Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield  (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date  A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield  (Frontier Touring) tour, panelist on  The Masked Singer  (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party  Fridayz Live  (with Fatman Scoop) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.

Chatfield has gained an audience of over 451k  Instagram  followers and amassed more than 347k  TikTok  followers and 13.4m likes.

Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s  The Trauma Dump Tour  will be a highly entertaining show, guaranteed to shock audiences! Don’t miss out! Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

ABBIE CHATFIELD ​ THE TRAUMA DUMP TOUR ​ APRIL & MAY 2023 ​Presented by Frontier Touring

FRONTIER MEMBERS PRE-SALE ​ via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield ​Runs 24 hours from:  Thursday 2 February (10am local) ​ or until pre-sale allocation exhausted

GENERAL PUBLIC ON SALE ​Begins:  Monday 6 February (10am local)

ALL SHOWS 16+*

Friday 28 April ​Palais Theatre | Melbourne, VIC ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ ticketmaster.com.au

Friday 5 May ​Thebarton Theatre | Adelaide, SA ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ ticketmaster.com.au

Friday 12 May ​Perth Concert Hall | Perth, WA ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ perthconcerthall.com.au

Thursday 18 May ​Queensland Performing Arts Centre | Brisbane, QLD ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ qpac.com.au

Saturday 27 May ​Enmore Theatre | Sydney, NSW ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ ticketek.com.au  

* This show contains Adult Content and is recommended for audiences 16 years and over  

** All shows will be Auslan (Australian Sign Language) interpreted

Patrons are advised to purchase tickets only through authorised ticket sellers. We cannot guarantee any ticket purchase made through any means other than the official ticketing agents listed on the Frontier website.  

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Australia April – May 2023

• Australian TV star, host, ambassador, entrepreneur, author, podcaster and chronic over-sharer,  Abbie Chatfield,  today announces  The Trauma Dump Tour  
• Five theatre shows confirmed for  April –   May 2023  playing  Melbourne, Adelaide, Perth, Brisbane  and  Sydney
• Frontier Members  pre-sale 10am local  Thursday 2 February
• General public tickets on sale 10am local  Monday 6 February  
• Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield  

Frontier Touring  are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer,  Abbie Chatfield,  will tour the country on  The Trauma Dump Tour throughout  April  and  May 2023.

The Trauma Dump Tour  will kick off at the  Palais Theatre, Melbourne  on  Friday 28 April  before heading on to  Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide  on  Friday 5 May,  then continuing west playing  Perth Concert Hall  on  Friday 12 May , onto  Queensland Performing Arts Centre (QPAC)  on  Thursday 18 May  before a final hometown show at the  Enmore Theatre Sydney  on  Saturday 27 May.

Frontier Members  will have access to pre-sale tickets from  10am local time  on  Thursday 2 February  ahead of the general public on sale from  10am local time Monday 6 February.  Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with! On top of her highly successful  It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield  (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show  Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield  (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date  A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield  (Frontier Touring) tour, panelist on  The Masked Singer  (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party  Fridayz Live  (with Fatman Scoop) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.

Chatfield has gained an audience of over 451k  Instagram  followers and amassed more than 347k  TikTok  followers and 13.4m likes.

Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s  The Trauma Dump Tour  will be a highly entertaining show, guaranteed to shock audiences! Don’t miss out! Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

ABBIE CHATFIELD ​ THE TRAUMA DUMP TOUR ​ APRIL & MAY 2023 ​Presented by Frontier Touring

FRONTIER MEMBERS PRE-SALE ​ via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield ​Runs 24 hours from:  Thursday 2 February (10am local) ​ or until pre-sale allocation exhausted

GENERAL PUBLIC ON SALE ​Begins:  Monday 6 February (10am local)

ALL SHOWS 16+*

Friday 28 April ​Palais Theatre | Melbourne, VIC ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ ticketmaster.com.au

Friday 5 May ​Thebarton Theatre | Adelaide, SA ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ ticketmaster.com.au

Friday 12 May ​Perth Concert Hall | Perth, WA ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ perthconcerthall.com.au

Thursday 18 May ​Queensland Performing Arts Centre | Brisbane, QLD ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ qpac.com.au

Saturday 27 May ​Enmore Theatre | Sydney, NSW ​16+* ​On sale: Monday 6 February (10am local) ​ ticketek.com.au  

* This show contains Adult Content and is recommended for audiences 16 years and over  

** All shows will be Auslan (Australian Sign Language) interpreted

Patrons are advised to purchase tickets only through authorised ticket sellers. We cannot guarantee any ticket purchase made through any means other than the official ticketing agents listed on the Frontier website.  

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Abbie Chatfield The Trauma Dump Tour

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Frontier Touring are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer, Abbie Chatfield , will tour the country throughout April and May 2023.

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with! On top of her highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield ( Frontier Touring ) tour, panellist on The Masked Singer (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party Fridayz Live (with Fatman Scoop ) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.

Chatfield has gained an audience of over 452k Instagram followers and amassed more than 347k TikTok followers and 13.4m likes.

Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s Tour will be a highly entertaining show, guaranteed to shock audiences! Don’t miss out!

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Age recommendation:.

This show is recommended for audiences 16 years and over.

This show contains adult content.

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For wheelchair users, Companion Card holders or those requiring assistance, dedicated seating options are available, and bookings can be made through our Call Centre by calling 136 246 . You can also find information on access and accessibility   at QPAC here .

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• 1 x Reserved Seat within the first 11 rows
• 1 x Exclusive Tour Merchandise item

Package purchasers will receive an email 3-5 days prior to the day of the show with details regarding collection of the Exclusive Tour Merchandise item.

If you use a wheelchair or require assistance due to mobility difficulties, please call 136 246 to book accessible seating or email [email protected] to enquire.

Hot Seat Package Terms & Conditions

• Re-Sale Prohibited: All package elements will be rendered invalid if resold.
• No Refunds: Hot Seat Package and contents are non-transferable, no refunds or exchanges, all sales are final. Name changes will be issued at the sole discretion of Frontier.
• Package Details: Hot Seat Package instructions regarding collection of Exclusive Tour Merchandise item will be sent via email approximately 3-5 days before the concert. If you do not receive this email 3 days prior, please email [email protected] .
• Packages Subject to Change: all package items and experiences (including locations and package inclusions) may vary from market to market and are subject to change at any time for any reason.
• Purchaser Information: you are responsible for ensuring your contact information (email and mail address) provided at the time of purchase is correct and current and Frontier is not responsible where incorrect information results in an undelivered product.
• Arrival Time: a component of your VIP package may require you to be at the venue at a designated time. This may be well before doors open or require you to stay after the show. If you arrive late to your designated time, you are deemed to have forfeited any missed components of the VIP package.
• Hot Seat Package Components (eg. Exclusive Tour Merchandise): all Exclusive Tour Merchandise is to be picked up at the venue, night of the show.

Walking out after the show is done, it’s impossible not to overhear snippets of spirited conversation, all of which went something like: “that was awesome”, “she’s such an icon” and “I laughed so hard when she said this…”

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Abbie Chatfield Has Unveiled Another Aussie Tour & We’re So Ready For Bulk Nightmare Fuel

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There’s nothing like unlocking the ol’ trauma vault and (consensually) offloading all your deepest thoughts onto a well-trusted friend. But how about standing on a stage and doing that in front of a thousand-odd people who adore you? That’s surely primed to be fresh fodder for the traumy-v if shit hits the fan.

View this post on Instagram A post shared by ABBIE CHATFIELD (@abbiechatfield)

“I had an absolute blast sharing stories and opening the conversation with audiences on the A Hot Night… tour in 2022 so I thought it’s time to unleash my nightmare fuel and offload traumatic relationship stories with you in 2023,” Abbie said in the tour’s release.

“Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.”

Live nightmare fuel! Traumatic relationship tales! Abbie solo on a stage looking impossibly stunning while discussing some of man’s greatest horrors! Hot damn this show has it all.

Abbie’s Trauma Dump Tour is set to kick off at Melbourne’s Palais Theatre on April 28 before heading to Adelaide, Perth and Brisbane before closing the vault door again in Sydney on May 27. All shows are — understandably — aged 16+ because no children should be privvy to the trauma vault.

Tickets for the whole tour are on sale from 10am on Monday February 6 through the Frontier Touring website . As always there’s a cheeky presale happening on Thursday Feb 2 from 10am.

Abbie Chatfield The Trauma Vault Tour 2023

Friday 28 April ​Palais Theatre Melbourne, VIC

Friday 5 May ​Thebarton Theatre Adelaide, SA

Friday 12 May ​Perth Concert Hall Perth, WA Thursday 18 May ​Queensland Performing Arts Centre Brisbane, QLD

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Abbie Chatfield set to hit the road as she announces ‘The Trauma Dump Tour’

“I’m so excited to be seeing all of your lovely faces again throughout April and May 2023!”

Abbie Chatfield is set to hit the road on The Trauma Dump Tour throughout April and May 2023.

Teaming up with Frontier Touring, Chatfield will bring The Trauma Dump Tour to the Palais Theatre, Melbourne on Friday 28 April, before heading on to Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide on Friday 5 May, then continuing west, playing Perth Concert Hall on Friday 12 May.

Chatfield then brings the show to the Queensland Performing Arts Centre (QPAC) on Thursday 18 May, before a final hometown show at the Enmore Theatre Sydney on Saturday, 27 May.   Chatfield said: “I had an absolute blast sharing stories and opening the conversation with audiences on the A Hot Night… tour in 2022 so I thought it’s time to unleash my nightmare fuel and offload traumatic relationship stories with you in 2023! Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.”

Chatfield also took to her Instagram to share the news with her followers. She wrote: “TOUR TOUR TOUR!!!!!!!! I’m so excited to be seeing all of your lovely faces again throughout April and May 2023!

“This time I’m touring solo, all me baby!! Plus some audience participation bc nothing can top a live nightmare fuel. Last year I was blessed with amazing guests, but this time I’m taking a v scary risk and have decided to chat to you all like we’ve just met in a club bathroom the day after a break up.”   Frontier Members  will have access to pre-sale tickets from 10am local time on Thursday 2 February ahead of the general public on sale from 10am local time Monday 6 February. Tickets via  frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

In addition to going on tour, Chatfield is the host of her highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield  (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show  Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network).

The year ahead will also see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.   See also: Abbie Chatfield named as host of Binge’s new reality series FBoy Island

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Friday April 28, 2023 7:00 PM

Palais Theatre, St Kilda 12 Lower Esplanade St Kilda, Victoria 3182 Australia

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Frontier Touring  are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer,  Abbie Chatfield,  will tour the country throughout  April  and  May 2023.

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with!  On top of her highly successful  It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield  (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show  Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield  (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date  A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield  (Frontier Touring) tour, panellist on The Masked Singer (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party  Fridayz Live  (with Fatman Scoop) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.

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Abbie Chatfield Announces ‘The Trauma Dump Tour’

Frontier Touring are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer, Abbie Chatfield , will tour the country on The Trauma Dump Tour throughout April and May 2023.

“I had an absolute blast sharing stories and opening the conversation with audiences on the A Hot Night… tour in 2022 so I thought it’s time to unleash my nightmare fuel and offload traumatic relationship stories with you in 2023! Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.” – Abbie Chatfield

The Trauma Dump Tour will kick off at the Palais Theatre, Melbourne on Friday 28 April before heading on to Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide on Friday 5 May, then continuing west playing Perth Concert Hall on Friday 12 May, onto Queensland Performing Arts Centre (QPAC) on Thursday 18 May before a final hometown show at the Enmore Theatre Sydney on Saturday 27 May.

Frontier Members will have access to pre-sale tickets from 10am local time on Thursday 2 February ahead of the general public on sale from 10am local time Monday 6 February. Tickets via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with! On top of her highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield (Frontier Touring) tour, panelist on The Masked Singer (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party Fridayz Live (with Fatman Scoop) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘FBOY Island’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.

Chatfield has gained an audience of over 451k Instagram followers and amassed more than 347k TikTok followers and 13.4m likes.

Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s The Trauma Dump Tour will be a highly entertaining show, guaranteed to shock audiences! Don’t miss out! Tickets via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield .

FRONTIER MEMBERS PRE-SALE ​via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield ​Runs 24 hours from: Thursday 2 February (10am local) ​or until pre-sale allocation exhausted

GENERAL PUBLIC ON SALE ​Begins: Monday 6 February (10am local)

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Abbie Chatfield’s ‘The Trauma Dump Tour’ kicks off next week

Australian TV star, host, ambassador, entrepreneur, author, podcaster and ‘unfaltering honesty queen’ Abbie Chatfield ‘s The Trauma Dump Tour kicks off next week.

Following shows in Melbourne and Adelaide, The Trauma Dump Tour hits  Perth Concert Hall  on Friday, May 12. Abbie Chatfield will then perform in Brisbane before finishing up with a sold out homecoming show in Sydney.

With an audience of over 450k Instagram followers, more than 355k TikTok followers and 13.8m likes, Abbie Chatfield has won fans across the world with her highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast and hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network). Chatfield will host the new Australian 10-episode show FBOY Island , launching soon on Binge.

“I had an absolute blast sharing stories and opening the conversation with audiences on the A Hot Night… tour in 2022 so I thought it’s time to unleash my nightmare fuel and offload traumatic relationship stories with you in 2023,” said Abbie Chatfield. “Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.”

Abbie Chatfield hits Perth Concert Hall on Friday 12 May, 2023. For more info and to buy tickets head to frontiertouring.com

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Abbie Chatfield The Trauma Dump Tour kicks off next week!

Frontier Touring  are pumped to confirm Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and unfaltering honesty queen, Abbie Chatfield will kick off her 5-date national theatre tour next week!

“I feel sorry for people who aren’t coming.”  – Abbie Chatfield

The Trauma Dump Tour commences at the Palais Theatre, Melbourne (almost sold out!) on Friday 28 April before heading on to Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide (final tix) on Friday 5 May , then continuing west playing Perth Concert Hall  (final tix) on Friday 12 May , onto Queensland Performing Arts Centre (QPAC)  (almost sold out!) on Thursday 18 May  before a final hometown show at the Enmore Theatre Sydney (sold out, soz x) on Saturday 27 May . Final tickets via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield

Friday 28 April  Palais Theatre, Melbourne Doors:   7:00PM Show start: 8:00PM Friday 5 May Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide Doors:   7:00PM Show start: 8:00PM Friday 12 May Perth Concert Hall, Perth Doors: 6:30PM Show start: 8:00PM Thursday 18 May QPAC, Brisbane Doors:   7:00PM Show start: 8:00PM Saturday 27 May Enmore Theatre, Sydney Doors:   7:00PM Show start: 8:00PM Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with, gaining an audience of over 450k Instagram  followers and amassing more than 355k TikTok  followers and 13.8m likes!  On top of her upcoming 5-date The Trauma Dump Tour , highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network) Chatfield will host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’, launching soon on Binge! Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s The Trauma Dump Tour is guaranteed to shock audiences and ignite conversation! Don’t miss out! Final tickets via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield

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Frontier Touring are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer, Abbie Chatfield , will tour the country throughout April and May 2023.

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with! On top of her highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield ( Frontier Touring ) tour, panellist on The Masked Singer (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party Fridayz Live (with Fatman Scoop ) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize.

Chatfield has gained an audience of over 452k Instagram followers and amassed more than 347k TikTok followers and 13.4m likes.

Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s Tour will be a highly entertaining show, guaranteed to shock audiences! Don’t miss out!

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Walking out after the show is done, it’s impossible not to overhear snippets of spirited conversation, all of which went something like: “that was awesome”, “she’s such an icon” and “I laughed so hard when she said this…”

A Hot Night with Abbie Chatfield lived up to the hype and some.... Equal parts entertaining, informative and inspiring – thanks to its warm, generous and hilarious hostess and guests – it was a night to remember.

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Abbie Chatfield announces second and final Sydney show on The Trauma Dump Tour

Frontier Touring are pumped to confirm Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and unfalteringly honest, Abbie Chatfield has added a second and final Sydney show to her Trauma Dump Tour. Having already kicked off the tour with shows in Melbourne (sold out) and Adelaide to rave reviews, the tour continues this Friday 12 May at Perth Concert Hall before heading to QPAC Brisbane (sold out) on Thursday 18 May before two Sydney Enmore Theatre shows on Saturday 27 (sold out) and now a second Sydney show on Sunday 28 May.

“Raw, honest and hilarious. Brace yourself for a wild ride.” – Glam Adelaide

“I feel sorry for people who aren’t coming.” – Abbie Chatfield

Frontier Members can access pre-sale tickets to Abbie’s second Sydney show from 12noon AEST on Wednesday 10 May ahead of the general public on sale kicking off 1pm AEST Thursday 11 May. Tickets via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield

Remaining shows:

DATE VENUE/CITY DOORS SHOW START Friday 12 May Perth Concert Hall, Perth 6:30pm 8:00pm Thursday 18 May QPAC, Brisbane 7:00pm 8:00pm Saturday 27 May Enmore Theatre, Sydney 7:00pm 8:00pm Sunday 28 May Enmore Theatre, Sydney 7:00pm 8:00pm

Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with, gaining an audience of over 450k Instagram followers and amassing more than 356k TikTok followers and 14m likes! On top of her now 6-date The Trauma Dump Tour, highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network) Chatfield will host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘FBOY Island’, launching May 29 on Binge!

Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s The Trauma Dump Tour is guaranteed to shock audiences and ignite conversation! Don’t miss out! Final tickets via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield

ABBIE CHATFIELD THE TRAUMA DUMP TOUR APRIL & MAY 2023 Presented by Frontier Touring

NEW SYDNEY SHOW FRONTIER MEMBERS PRE-SALE via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield Runs 24 hours from: Wednesday 10 May (12noon AEST) or until pre-sale allocation exhausted

NEW SYDNEY SHOW GENERAL PUBLIC ON SALE Begins: Thursday 11 May (1pm AEST)

REMAINING SHOWS FINAL TIX ON SALE NOW via frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield

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Abbie Chatfield announces The Trauma Dump Tour Australia April-May 2023

Frontier Touring are thrilled to announce Australia’s much-loved, topical, TV star, podcaster, radio host, ambassador, entrepreneur and chronic over-sharer, Abbie Chatfield , will tour the country on The Trauma Dump Tour  throughout April and May 2023. “I had an absolute blast sharing stories and opening the conversation with audiences on the A Hot Night... tour in 2022 so I thought it’s time to unleash my nightmare fuel and offload traumatic relationship stories with you in 2023!  Strap yourselves in, The Trauma Dump Tour shows are going to be wild.”  - Abbie Chatfield The Trauma Dump Tour will kick off at the Palais Theatre, Melbourne on Friday 28 April before heading on to Thebarton Theatre, Adelaide on Friday 5 May, then continuing west playing Perth Concert Hall on Friday 12 May, onto Queensland Performing Arts Centre (QPAC) on Thursday 18 May before a final hometown show at the Enmore Theatre Sydney on Saturday 27 May. Frontier Members will have access to pre-sale tickets from 10am local time on Thursday 2 February ahead of the general public on sale from 10am local time Monday 6 February.  Tickets via https://www.frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield Abbie Chatfield is one busy, fierce, force to be reckoned with! On top of her highly successful It’s A Lot with Abbie Chatfield (LiSTNR) podcast, hit radio show Hot Nights With Abbie Chatfield (Hit Network), a completely sold out 7-date A Hot Night With Abbie Chatfield (Frontier Touring) tour, panellist on The Masked Singer (Network TEN), and co-hosting Australia’s biggest party Fridayz Live (with Fatman Scoop) in 2022, 2023 will see Chatfield host the new Australian 10-episode show ‘ FBOY Island ’ (Binge). The show follows three women as they try to find the ‘nice guys’ amongst a pool of self-proclaimed ‘fboys’ who are on the show to play the game and to win a cash prize. Chatfield has gained an audience of over 452k Instagram  followers and amassed more than 347k TikTok  followers and 13.4m likes. 'Walking out after the show is done, it’s impossible not to overhear snippets of spirited conversation, all of which went something like: “that was awesome”, “she’s such an icon” and “I laughed so hard when she said this…"'  – Time Out   'A Hot Night with Abbie Chatfield lived up to the hype and some.... Equal parts entertaining, informative and inspiring – thanks to its warm, generous and hilarious hostess and guests – it was a night to remember.'  – The Advertiser Never shy of over-sharing, Abbie’s The Trauma Dump Tour will be a highly entertaining show, guaranteed to shock audiences!  Don’t miss out! Tickets via  https://www.frontiertouring.com/abbiechatfield    

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Why Some People Dump Their Traumas on Us

... and why what's unloaded often isn't really trauma..

Posted November 26, 2021 | Reviewed by Davia Sills

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• Trauma dumping is a term used to describe intense oversharing, which can leave everyone involved feeling more distressed and helpless.
• People who trauma dump or "over-emote" find it hard to process, filter, and regulate emotions, especially when their threat brain gets involved.
• Understanding the dynamics of trauma dumping can help you distinguish when to listen and when to say no.

People who "dump" traumatic thoughts, feelings, energy onto others—who speak and behave with "wild vulnerability"—find it very difficult to organize, process, and filter their feelings appropriately. Sometimes this suggests a deeper psychological problem—such as borderline personality or post-traumatic stress disorder—but it is often because people are increasingly confused by culturally mixed messages regarding what and when it is OK to share.

The use of the word "trauma" has also become more elastic, meaning that some people experience and describe relatively minor life challenges as "traumatic." Losing out on a promotion at work, queuing for petrol, being single, having noisy neighbors, and developing wrinkles may overwhelm or upset us, but they are qualitatively different experiences to, for example, being raped, witnessing a murder, getting involved in a fatal accident, or prematurely losing a loved one.

It is not surprising that trauma dumping is on the increase. Over emoting is encouraged and has become the norm on social media and in talk and reality shows. What's more, there's now a mountain of self-help manuals and messages instructing us to get in touch with our feelings and tell each other about them. Yet, at the same time, in many of our schools and workplaces, emotions and feelings are not properly attended to or nurtured, and in some places, they are even discouraged. So whilst we are told feelings are a good thing, in reality, there is little opportunity to practice and learn how to express, understand, and process them.

Trauma dumping and threat brain

Ultimately, what determines our ability to acknowledge, manage, and process our feelings effectively is the way in which we learn to notice and regulate the emotions of our threat brain —which is the part of our emotion system that is alert to and responds to danger. An overactive threat brain will flood us with powerful feelings and thoughts which, if we do not soothe and contain them, will eventually spill out in daily life and relationships.

Our threat brain can be activated by both real and imagined threats, which is why, for some people, relatively minor problems can feel terrifying—our ability to replay, imagine, and overthink makes it so.

Trauma dumping causes problems for everyone involved because highly charged speech and behavior stimulate a part of our nervous system that floods our body with powerful hormones and chemicals to keep us hypervigilant and alert. "Detoxing" from this can take some time because of the feelings that arise after the "trauma binge." For example, people often feel guilty and ashamed because they sense they have shared too much and/or embellished and exaggerated the details of their problem. They can also feel increased anxiety because the dumping "solution" hasn't taken away the pain; instead, it has supplied it with problem-focused energy that keeps it " memory active." Trauma dumping is like binge drinking: It might feel good in the moment, but the after-effects are lasting and painful.

People on the receiving end also suffer. They want to help but can't because the purpose of trauma dumping is to discharge emotions and not to work through issues. Or they feel resentful and drained by the emotional "bombing" and their inability to escape it.

Friendships and partnerships thrive on reciprocity—which is mutual sharing, giving, and taking. Trauma dumping, on the other hand, is one-sided, and people are used as objects upon which to project pain. When this happens, the receiver can experience " secondary trauma ," which is a kind of emotional contagion where negative feelings become infectious.

If you find yourself frequently at the receiving end of someone's trauma dump, ask yourself, "What is it about me that attracts or enables people to use me in this way?" The tone in which you ask yourself this question is crucial because this is not about blaming yourself but rather compassionately understanding how your relationships might not be serving you well. So ask yourself this question kindly and with curiosity.

People who trauma dump unconsciously seek out others who can effectively become the container or "hook" for their unwanted feelings. In all of us, there is a sixth sense that operates through our unconscious , looking out for and connecting with people who, in different ways, enable our unconscious needs, yearnings, and characteristics to be seen, heard, and related to.

A person who trauma dumps is unconsciously seeking people who have a stronger than average need to be liked or to please others. This need arises—again often unconsciously—from a fear of being rejected or of being unloveable. It comes from a belief, learned in early childhood , that we can secure love and safety by being good, compliant, and submissive to others.

Thus if you find it difficult to stop your friend or partner dumping on you, you may have this tendency which comes from the "freeze" part of our fight-flee-freeze threat brain response repertoire. Whilst animals literally freeze by remaining still, humans freeze their own needs and beliefs so that they can fully focus on the other person—which feels like the safest thing to do when we feel fear. Unfortunately, threat brain strategies such as fighting, fleeing, and freezing rarely support good relationships and, in the case of trauma dumping, help neither party.

Discovering that you may be caught in a threat brain freeze loop is your first step in learning how to deal with people who take advantage of you. Ask yourself: "What did I do as a child to secure approval, attention , and love from my parents?" and consider where you fall on the continuum from submissive (e.g., people-pleasing) to dominant (e.g., competitive and achievement-oriented). Then taking small steps towards becoming compassionately assertive can help. This means learning to say no in a non-defensive way.

Three ways to say no to trauma dumping

• Learn about your threat brain and share with your friend/partner how trauma dumping increases threat brain activity and creates anxiety and stress in both of you.
• Let your friend/partner know that when your threat brain is activated, it makes trauma worse, and research shows that breathing slowly and regularly is better than talking when we are feeling fearful. Invite your friend to stop talking and to breathe—you can do this together.
• Don't see this person when you are tired or stressed . When you do see them, rehearse beforehand how you will say "no"—perhaps by telling them that you will listen for 10 minutes only.

Trauma dumping is not the same as having post-traumatic stress disorder.

Trauma dumping describes people in the general population who have a tendency to over-emote. It is not an appropriate term to describe people who have experienced genuine trauma and find themselves overwhelmed because of it.

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a potentially serious problem where flashbacks and potent memories disorganize the mind and the ability to relate to others, and it is more likely to require a serious effort on the part of the listener to assist with finding help. Trauma dumping, on the other hand, requires the listener to manage the impact on themselves and the relationship.

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Wickremasinghe, N. (2021) Being With Others: Curses, Spells and Scintillations. Triarchy.

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Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf., is a psychologist, family therapist, and author of the books Beyond Threat and Being with Others .

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