i hate solo travel

I Hate Traveling Solo—And I’m Totally Okay With That

By Candice Rainey

A couple of years ago, when I was the executive editor of Condé Nast Traveler , I copped to loathing solo travel in the middle of a meeting with several other travel editors, most of them women. This was post Women’s March, pre #metoo, and the collective reaction could only be described as “stunned.”

I get it. After all, this was a time when we were exerting independence in every facet of our lives. Moving confidently through the world felt urgent. Necessary , even. So when I admitted I wasn’t a fan of traveling by myself despite being an independent 40-year-old woman, and a travel editor no less, it came off as if I was actively dodging empowerment. Or worse, that I didn't know how to be alone. That’s not my problem. Like most writers, I require pockets of time by myself and have no trouble filling hours alone. Organizing my closet and blowing through the entire Haim catalogue on Spotify is my high church.

But for me, traveling solo has never been empowering, much less restorative. If anything it feels like painful work—like therapy that’s not going well. When I’m in an unfamiliar place by myself for a stretch, I’m hilariously incapable of exuding worldly swagger. I’ll research my brains out and make plans to experience whatever city I am in—locking in the of-the-moment restaurant reservation, figuring out what museum to hit, where to get that afternoon macchiato in that burgeoning, cool-kids neighborhood—and then promptly second guess all of those plans, with nobody to talk me out of bailing on them, and retreat to my room early to polish off a few mini bottles from the hotel mini bar and binge-watch Netflix on my iPhone.

Once, when I was in London on assignment, I decided last minute to head to Somerset by train (which is saying a lot since cracking train travel has never been my strong suit). The plan was to stay one night at a pretty country-estate hotel surrounded by seemingly endless fields of tall grass and hulking majestic trees that looked more like hyperrealistic drawings. It was all painfully beautiful and it was a privilege to be there, but no matter what I did—drank a pint by myself in the bar, read a book on an overstuffed lawn chair, swam in the indoor/outdoor infinity pool—I couldn’t...settle. I kept thinking about what it would be like to come back here with my daughter and husband, and dedicated way too much headspace to what my dog was doing (sleeping on my side of the bed most likely, not thinking about me). I skipped dinner, holed up in my room, and stayed up far too late watching a bad movie before leaving early the next morning, not even giving the claw-foot soaking tub a whirl.

It hasn’t gone like that on every trip—sometimes I’ll go somewhere alone, muscle through, and come back feeling wrung out, in a good way, because I was able to take care of myself and all of my appendages, including my iPhone. Feeling capable is utterly satisfying. But I’ve also not taken assignments, like gorilla trekking in Rwanda , because the thought of preparing for and experiencing that kind of herculean adventure by my lonesome fills me with paralyzing, mood-killing dread. Whereas if I have someone to share the anticipation and fear with—and stoke my Gorilla-loving fires—well, go ahead and count me in.

As the number of female solo travelers continues to rise (in 2018 British Airways found that more than 50 percent of the 9,000 women surveyed had taken a solo vacation, with 75 percent planning solo trips in the near future) it’s embarrassing to admit you’re a reluctant solo traveler in a time when other women seem to be ticking off their bucket list destinations on their own—and with a palpable fervor. But I don’t apologize anymore for it. What I realized is that I love to travel because it imprints you in a way that a million hot yoga classes, or juice cleanses, or work or whatever else we are organizing our lives around at the moment never can. And for me, to really sink into a place and come back changed, jolted even, I need someone to share it with. If that makes me less of a badass explorer, I can live with that.

In fact, I’ve given myself permission to never have to travel solo again if I don’t want to. Which is exactly why, when I landed a dream assignment to drive 1,200 miles around Portugal —in an Alfa Romeo, no less—I did what any respectable, independent woman would do. I called my mom.

My mom and I drank too much Port and held our breaths as we inched our way down medieval cobblestone streets in a very expensive rental, where we definitely left pastry crumbs behind. That’s a trip I’ll remember for the rest of my life. And isn’t that the whole point of going anywhere? To remember it not solely for the anxiety or loneliness you felt awash in, but for the connection you made to other humans. One that would have never happened had you not been some other place than home.

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Overcome Fear & Anxiety of Travelling Alone: 23 Things I Do

Even experienced solo travellers can suffer from anxiety and fear before travelling alone.

Fear and anxiety are your body telling you that you are about to do something out of the ordinary and you need to prepare accordingly. Overcoming this fear and developing self-confidence are part of what makes solo travel rewarding.

But how do we overcome the anxiety of travelling alone?

Begin by identifying what is causing your fear of travelling alone. Then apply the 23 tips below to overcome your solo travel anxiety.

Nomadic Yak has 100s of solo travel tips if it’s your first time travelling solo !

• 23 Tips to Overcome Solo Travel Anxiety
• 4 Things That Cause Fear and Anxiety of Travelling Alone
• More Solo Travel Tips

How to Overcome Fear and Anxiety of Travelling Alone: 23 Tips

1. spritz yourself with calming spray.

I keep Bach Rescue Remedy in my daypack so that it is on hand in stressful situations. 

It uses 5 natural flower essences to provide quick comfort and reassurance. Simply spray twice under your tongue.

I also spray it on my pillow at night and the calming smell lulls me to sleep.

2. Stay connected with a local SIM

When travelling alone, you can resolve 99% of your problems using the internet :

• Using maps to navigate your destination
• Booking accommodation and transport
• Contacting family, friends and emergency services
• Accessing bookings, visas and other travel documents
• Entertaining yourself

That’s why I always suggest buying a local SIM card and a data plan as soon as you arrive at your destination . Local data plans are usually more affordable than international roaming or e-sims.

Having internet access will go a long way in quashing your fears and anxiety when travelling alone.

3. Set up ‘Find My Phone ‘

Every solo traveller’s biggest nightmare is losing their phone. Your phone is your lifeline when travelling alone.

Set up the “Find My” feature on your phone before leaving for your solo adventure. Apple iPhone users can use Find My iPhone , whilst Google users can use Find My Device .

If your phone is lost or stolen whilst travelling, you can now locate it, lock it or erase the data on it. That helps to eradicate some of the fear of having your phone stolen.

But I also suggest including a spare smartphone on your solo travel packing list . Any old smartphone that you have lying around will do. And this can be used as a backup if your original phone is stolen.

4. Study these safety tips

Think you’re prepared for anything that your destination can throw at you? Think again.

I’ve had to learn the hard way so that you don’t have to! Be sure to read my 35 solo travel safety tips , including:

• How to share your GPS location with family
• Why you should use a VPN to access public WiFi
• How to check ATMs for skimming devices
• How to choose a safe hostel

5. Focus on the positives (but be prepared for the negatives)

There are advantages and disadvantages to travelling alone . But if you only focus on the negatives, your anxiety will snowball out of control.

Focus on the pros of solo travel rather than the cons. When you’re feeling fearful or anxious, remember:

• You have flexibility – you can go where you want, when you want and do what you want without worrying about others.
• You have time to focus on yourself – you can be as lazy or as active as you like without other people judging you. 
• You have more opportunities to make friends and meet people – you are not confined to your social circle and you 
• You become more self-assured and confident – you realise that you are capable of surviving and thriving independently.
• You discover yourself – you can be who you really are without anyone having any preconceived notions about you.

6. Write out your anxieties and your coping mechanisms

Get ahead of your fears and anxieties by identifying them. 

Leading up to your solo trip, make a list of all the things you feel anxious about . Then ask why that thing makes you feel anxious and what you can do to overcome that anxiety.

Most of the time, we will be able to immediately find a practical solution to the problem that we’re worried about. Then we realise that the problem was never really worth worrying about.

7. Carry a small memento from home

Feeling homesick can heighten anxiety when travelling alone.

As a remedy to homesickness, it may help you to carry a small memento – a picture, a note, a piece of jewellery, perfume, etc.

If ever you feel anxious, pull out your memento and remember that you’re only ever a flight or a phone call away from home.

Personally, I carry an instant photo from my girlfriend, with a loving note on the back of it.

8. Journal for 5 minutes each day

Journaling helps me to clarify my thoughts and work through problems .

I spend 5 minutes each day journaling . But instead of hauling a paper journal around in my backpack, I use my iPad and the Notion app.

Make a habit of journaling each day. When you feel anxious whilst travelling alone, ask yourself why you feel that way, what is triggering your fear and whether you are being rational?

Again, you will almost always find an immediate and practical solution to your problems.

9. Find yourself a happy spot

Whenever I arrive at a new destination, I locate my ‘happy spot’ – somewhere scenic and quiet. 

I make a habit of going here each morning with a coffee so that I can gather my thoughts and energise for the day .

My favourite ‘happy spot’ was a rocky river bank in Vang Vieng, Laos (see the picture above).

10. Know that you can return home at any time

Sometimes, anxiety can become so overwhelming that the only safe option is to end your trip and return home. 

Remember, there is no shame in returning home early from your trip. It is as simple as arranging a flight from the nearest airport.

There will always be more opportunities for you to travel alone in the future when you are feeling better.

11. Use anxiety to your advantage

Anxiety provides an adrenaline boost that can be advantageous when travelling alone.

When anxious, you are more alert . Your mind and body are telling you to be on guard, which can help you to avoid dangerous people and situations .

And the butterflies in your stomach before departure will help to ensure that you prepare properly. It is a reminder not to forget important stuff such as your passport or your travel insurance.  

Once you arrive, settle in and realise that solo travel isn’t as scary as you thought, that anxious feeling will subside. But your anxiety will never totally disappear – because a little anxiety is actually helpful.

12. Overcome your anxiety of flying

If you’re anxious about air travel, read my guide to flying alone for the first time . 

In the guide, I list 10 things you can do to overcome anxiety when flying alone . For example:

• Remember that flight is the safest form of travel and that no plane has ever crashed due to turbulence.
• Wear comfortable clothes like sweatpants and a hoodie.
• Breathe into a paper bag.
• Use an anxiety-calming spray .

13. Read the accounts of other solo travellers

If I’m feeling nervous about travelling to a particular destination alone, I’ll find first-hand accounts from other travellers that have been there recently .

The Solo Travel subreddit is one of the best places to read people’s travel stories and ask questions. You can also find a lot of solo travellers on the Travel subreddit .

14. Travel slowly 

Rushing around the world in 80 days will only add stress to your solo trip.

Minimise anxiety by travelling slowly. Try to stop for at least 3 days at each destination on your itinerary. This gives you time to settle in, get accustomed and overcome your initial anxieties.

Plan to do at least one thing each day of your solo trip. Staying active also helps ward off anxiety.

15. Anxiety apps that actually help

There are a heap of apps out there that claim to help with anxiety. 

Two of the most popular apps include Headspace and Calm. However, these both require subscriptions. A free alternative that I like is Medito .

I also frequent the “Sleep” and “Wellness” sections on Spotify . I’ll often meditate or fall asleep listening to nature sounds, Tibetan bowls or peaceful music.

You can also find free guided meditations on Spotify and YouTube . My favourite is Jason Stephenson Meditation (try his affirmation videos when you’re feeling anxious).

16. Carry the essentials at all times (except your passport)

Eastpak Doggy Bag

• Worn close to the body. Can’t easily be snatched.
• Heaps of storage: I can fit my iPhone, Airpods, wallet, charging cable, sanitiser, sunglasses and more.
• No more walking around with lumpy pockets.

Make sure your day bag or bum bag is packed with everything you need to make it back to your accommodation in an emergency:

• A credit card
• A small amount of cash
• Some form of ID (preferably not a passport)
• A power bank and charging cable

I never carry my passport on me . I leave it locked with my luggage in my accommodation. I also keep an old backup phone with my luggage .

Even if I were to be mugged, I could find a way back to my accommodation and have everything I need to access my bank accounts, emails, iCloud, embassy, etc. 

17. Learn to say ‘no’

If you’re introverted or anxious, you might shy away from the word ‘no’. 

But there will be times when you are travelling alone and you have to say ‘no’ in order to avoid a dangerous situation .

“No”, I don’t want to go to the bar with you. “No”, I don’t want a ride with you. “No,” I’m not going to give you my Instagram handle.

If you don’t say no to some things, you’ll be dragged into everything . And this is the fastest way to spike your anxiety and ruin your solo trip.

18. Bring your medication and continue counselling (if applicable)

If you take prescription anxiety medication, it is important that you keep taking your medication as prescribed throughout your solo trip.

Be sure to carry any medication in its original prescription bottle with a copy of the prescription . It is unlikely that you will be asked about this by airport security but it is best to be prepared anyway. 

Keep some of your prescription medication in your daypack and the majority in your luggage. This way, you always have your medication on hand (even if one bag is lost or stolen).

If you receive counselling for fear and anxiety, you should try to continue that counselling whilst travelling . Arrange to have your existing counsellor call you via Whatsapp at a convenient time. Alternatively, try an online therapy service.

19. Have the local hotlines saved in your phone

Visit this list of emergency numbers and calling codes from around the world . Locate your destination and save the number as a contact in your phone .

You should also designate one family member or friend that you will call in an emergency . Tell them that you will call them if you feel scared or anxious, so they must be prepared to take your call at any time.

Also, research mental health hotlines that you can call if necessary. Many countries around the world have hotlines that you can use if you’re suffering from anxiety or depression whilst travelling alone .

20. Know that you will rarely be alone

I estimate that the average solo traveller only spends around 10-20% of their trip alone – and that’s the time that they spend sleeping in private accommodation.

80% of the time you are surrounded by other travellers, tour guides, motel staff and friendly locals.

You’ll realise that you don’t have to deal with the struggles of solo travel all on your own . Most people are kind and will help you to overcome the challenges – they’ll provide companionship, share travel advice, help you speak the local language and much more.

When you realise that there’s almost always someone around to help , you feel less fearful and anxious about travelling alone.

21. Plan logically to prepare mentally

Spend time planning the practical details of your solo trip so that you are physically and mentally prepared for the problems and emotions that will arise .

Start by choosing a safe and popular destination from my list of the best places to travel alone . Then use my solo travel destination guides to research an itinerary, budget, accommodation and transport. 

Each guide also includes a section on the safety risks that are unique to your destination.

22. Remember: overcoming fear is the reason we choose to travel alone

One of the reasons we travel alone is to step out of our comfort zone .

When we overcome the challenges that come with travelling solo, we feel accomplished. We prove to ourselves that we can face the challenges of life independently.

We become more self-confident and socially confident. We become more interesting thanks to the stories we gather and the friends we make.

Embrace the anxiety. It is a sign that you are doing something worthwhile.

23. Throw yourself into it

I know. You’ve heard this piece of advice 100 times before and you don’t want to hear it again.

But it works.

The only way that you can shed all fear and anxiety of travelling alone is to “just do it”.

When you throw yourself into solo travel, you realise that you are more capable than you ever imagined . You can find accommodation on your own. You can make friends on your own. You can explore the streets on your own. You can dine on your own.

I can almost guarantee that 24 hours into your trip, you’ll wonder what you were ever worried about.

What Causes Fear and Anxiety of Travelling Alone?

There are four fears and anxieties that you’ll likely experience when travelling alone.

Every solo traveller I’ve ever met (myself included) has experienced one or more of these anxieties at some stage.

It’s important to identify the cause of your fear and anxiety so that you can address it directly and logically. Then, we can ask ourselves two questions:

• Are my fears and anxieties about travelling alone justified?
• How can I prepare for my trip so that my fears and anxieties are minimised?

Which fear is driving your anxiety about travelling alone?

• First-time solo travel anxiety

Your first solo trip is the scariest. You have no idea what to expect.

Will I get lonely ? Will I make friends? Am I capable of surviving on my own? Is travelling alone weird ?

I asked myself all these questions before taking off for my first solo trip. As did the hundreds of other solo travellers that I have met since. 

Doing something unfamiliar for the first time is always daunting. 

But for 99% of people, all that anxiety and fear melt away within 2 hours of arriving at your destination. 

By the time you’re checked into your room and you’re staring out into the bustling streets, you’ll think “This is easier than I thought.” The excitement will take over you and you’ll never look back – you’re a solo traveller now!

Want to know if you’re cut out for solo travel? Take my 15-questions quiz: should I travel alone ?

• Fear for your personal safety

About 45% of women and 20% of men report safety concerns as their main reason for not travelling alone ( Tourlane ). So, is solo travel safe?

The truth is this – there are more dangers involved in solo travel than in other forms of travel. 

Even experienced solo travellers feel anxious before visiting dangerous or isolated destinations.

But no form of travel is completely safe. All you can do is minimise the risks by properly planning and preparing.

See my 35 solo travel safety tips to protect yourself against thieves, scam artists, dodgy strangers, the forces of nature and more.

And use my solo travel destination guides to learn about the safety risks unique to your destination.

Sometimes it is safer to travel in a group. Read about my experiences with solo travel vs group travel vs friends travel .

• Fear of getting lonely and bored

I repeatedly tell my readers: “You are rarely lonely when you travel alone”.

Yes, there are times when solo travel is lonely and sad . But most of the time you will be surrounded by like-minded travellers and fascinating locals (some of whom will become lifelong friends).

Read my 30-point guide on how to travel alone and not be lonely if you’re worried about feeling isolated.

And note that there are also times when solo travel is boring . But again, these occasions are rare and short-lived.

Because as the old saying goes – only boring people get bored.

• Fear of socialising and making friends (advice for introverts)

Before I left for my first solo trip, I was worried that I’d look like a loner and have a hard time meeting people. 

I had no idea how to make friends while travelling alone .

But within a day, I realised that 25% of my fellow travellers were solo and had made 5 new friends.

Why is it so easy to meet people when travelling alone? 

Because you are forced to step outside of your social circle and speak to strangers. And all you have to do to break the ice is discuss your common interest – travel.

Naturally shy (like me)? My guide to solo travel as an introvert has more tips on socialising.

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Summary: fear and anxiety when travelling solo.

• How can I plan or prepare for my trip so that my fears and anxieties are minimised?

There are 23 tips above that you can use to tackle your fears when travelling alone. 

But, remember, a little bit of anxiety is a good thing . Even the most experienced solo travellers still experience fear.

Fear and anxiety are evidence that you are doing something out of the ordinary, something worthwhile and potentially something dangerous. Use it to your advantage but don’t let it hold you back .

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Nomadic Yak helps solo travellers to plan journeys that are adventurous and authentic.

Every article is written by me, Harry Dale . I’ve travelled to 40+ countries over the last 5 years – alone.

You’ll find 100s of solo travel tips on how to save money, make more friends, build a social media following and much more.

Plus, you can use my solo travel destination guides to discover international sights and attractions that few other travellers get to witness.

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At age 22, I had never travelled overseas. Six years later, I have travelled alone through 35 countries and work wherever I like as a freelance writer.

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In 2019, Alea Simone quit her job, sold all her furniture, packed her bags, and embarked on a four-month trip across 17 countries in Europe and Asia — by herself. It was the first time she ever traveled solo. The Texas native had never visited Europe or Asia before, and she admits she was intimidated. Would she be able to navigate public transportation ? Communicate in non-English-speaking countries?

“I was really scared,” Simone says, “but at the same time, I had to push myself forward because there really wasn’t much for me to go back to.”

Four years and countless solo trips later, Simone is something of an expert. She recounts her travels to thousands of followers on TikTok and Instagram , offering insight to adventurers, from cheap flight deals to a review of airport nail salon services . While she still gets anxiety ahead of solo travels from time to time, the best way to quell her fears is to hop on the plane and go.

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More travelers than ever before are choosing to venture on their own. According to a survey by the travel search engine Kayak , searches for single-person flights in 2023 are up 36 percent compared to 2022. Search interest in solo travel hit an all-time high in July 2023. The benefits of solo travel are wide-ranging, from complete flexibility to the potential for a transformative experience . Beholden to no one but themselves, solo travelers can eat where they want, spend what they want, and see what they want.

This isn’t to say solo travelers shouldn’t take their safety seriously. “Solo travel is definitely about getting to know yourself,” Simone says, “and trusting your intuition.” Travelers of color, queer people, and women on their own may be targets for scammers , endure catcalls , and encounter racism and other forms of bigotry. Still, travel experts say the potential for negative incidents shouldn’t deter those who hope to travel alone from doing so. With no one else to depend on, solo travelers must take extra care while planning a trip, navigating around new locations, and interacting with new people. Seasoned independent adventurers offer their best advice for staying safe, yet open to new experiences.

How should I prepare to travel by myself?

Regardless if you’re traveling to the next town over to attend a concert by yourself or you’re hopping on an international flight, you need to be prepared for what awaits you. The farther you venture from home, though, the greater the opportunity for cultural miscommunications and misinterpretations. “You’re not going to read every situation correctly, because you’re in another culture,” says Janice Waugh, the publisher of the website Solo Traveler , “whether you’re from Kansas and going to New York or New York to Kansas.”

Do some Googling to see whether your proposed destination has any travel advisories and whether there are any laws that would make your visiting unsafe. But keep in mind that countries are vast places and while one city or province may not be amenable to tourists, that doesn’t mean the entire country is unsafe for a solo traveler.

Research which neighborhoods are near restaurants, parks, public transportation, or other areas that interest you. Can you walk from place to place? Is your hostel located near all of the sites you want to visit?

Try to identify various local communities on Instagram in your proposed destination — say, a yoga club if you’re into yoga, or a queer social club — and reach out to members for recommendations on what to do and where to stay, says travel writer Bani Amor . Amor also suggests solo travel Facebook groups where you can find intel on various businesses and locals to meet up with.

Familiarize yourself with popular tourist scams, Simone says, so you don’t unknowingly get into what you believe is a taxi at the airport and are grossly overcharged. “It’s usually a very easy Google search,” she says. “What are the common scams in Morocco? What are the common scams in London? What are the common scams in Bangkok?”

When booking flights or other transportation, Waugh recommends arriving during daylight so you can get your bearings. While you’re coordinating your transit, make a plan for how you’ll get to your lodgings, says writer and travel expert Jessica Nabongo . Especially after a long flight where you may be tired and disoriented, knowing how you’ll get out of the airport is crucial. Nabongo is a fan of booking a car service, but for cheaper options, research the public transportation options from the airport. The app Rome2Rio provides a variety of routes, from subway and bus to train and car.

As a good rule of thumb for all travelers, Simone recommends a few crucial travel accessories: locks for your luggage and backpacks , and a portable door lock for hotel and hostel rooms. She also suggests an RFID-blocking wallet to prevent new-age pickpockets from using sensors to steal your data without having to even steal your wallet. A low-profile money belt that you can wear under your clothes helps keep your money close and out of sight.

If you’re traveling to a location where you don’t speak the language, try to learn a few phrases, Amor says, just in case you need to ask for directions or read signs on public transportation.

Before you leave for the airport, train station, or bus stop, or get in a car, tell a few friends and family members where you will be. You can even share your location with a contact in your iPhone or via Gmail on Android and Google Maps (you can always turn this off once you’re home). Someone should always know where in the world you are.

Where is a safe place to stay as a solo traveler?

Travel experts sing the praises of all forms of lodging: hostels, hotels, Airbnb , staying with a friend of a friend. The main consideration is your budget. Hostels will be the cheapest option since you’ll share a room and bathroom with other travelers. However, this is a great opportunity to meet other people, some of whom may also be on their own. “I always like to suggest that people who have never traveled solo stay at a hostel, because hostels are built for solo travelers,” Simone says. “They’re always going to have tours going on you can sign up for.” Remember to always keep your items secure and locked.

For a slightly more expensive option, Amor suggests a private room at a hostel. You’ll have a door that locks and won’t need to share a bathroom.

Hotels and Airbnbs will be the costliest places to stay. “I like the amenities,” Nabongo says. “I like having breakfast and my gym. And I like having a concierge, so I can ask, ‘What should I do? Where should I eat?’”

Take advantage of the staff and hosts wherever you stay, experts say. These people are often locals and are familiar with where you’re visiting. They can provide tour recommendations, directions, and places to avoid.

Before booking, Waugh suggests looking at the lodging’s location on Google Maps’ street view. “Make sure that the area looks like it’s active, that it’s well-maintained, and that you’re going to feel safe,” she says.

You can always tap your network, Amor says, and ask if anyone has a trustworthy friend who might be willing to let you crash. “Before I book anything, anywhere, I’m going online to my social network and I’m being like, ‘Who has got a place? Who has a friend of a friend?” they say. “If I’m a part of a radical community or a punk community, then I know we have some sort of ethos that is very mutual aid [focused].”

No matter where you stay, write the address in a note on your phone or mark the location on Google Maps so you always can find your home base.

How do I meet other people? Is that even safe?

While there’s nothing wrong with enjoying your own company, solo travel gives adventurers the opportunity to meet new people. Group tours and Airbnb Experiences are great ways to mingle with other travelers. Opt to sit at the bar if you can since you’ll be better positioned to chat with other patrons and the bartender. These new connections might invite you to other events they have planned, Simone says, and give you strength in numbers. “You have to be open-minded and you have to be willing to say yes to things,” she says.

Try searching for clubs or social groups that align with your interests, Nabongo says. In major cities, there’s a good chance you can find a manga lovers group, beer runners, or a poetry reading event.

However, always keep these interactions in a public place, Waugh says: a cafe, a park, a museum, a store, historical sites. Simone and Waugh caution against going out by yourself at night unless you’re with an organized group like a bar crawl. Don’t tell anyone where you’re staying either, even if they ask. You can give a general location, like “on the other side of town,” and then keep the conversation moving, Waugh says.

Because different cultures have varying social norms around the appropriateness of certain comments or questions — what one culture considers a compliment may seem creepy to a person from a different background — you may be caught off-guard by offhand remarks. Sometimes cab drivers, for instance, might make comments about the way you look, misgender you, or ask intrusive questions. You don’t need to lie or justify who you are to a stranger, but keep the details to a minimum if you’re not comfortable. “Sometimes they’re just hitting on you, and … not everyone who’s hitting on you wants to abuse you,” Amor says. “But sometimes, it’s not fucking safe. I’ve never lied about having a boyfriend or a husband, but I usually just say ‘no.’”

Should a stranger become persistent in getting you alone, by offering to give you a ride or to veer off a marked hiking trail, consider that a red flag, Amor says. Don’t go anywhere private by yourself with someone you just met, be wary of people who are insistent you make a decision immediately (about whether you’ll join them on a day trip, for example), and don’t worry about being rude. “One thing a lot of us are trained to do is just to be nice,” they say. “You really have to put your foot down at some point.”

Continue using whatever metric you use at home to suss out new connections. If you get a weird feeling from a super-persistent person sitting next to you at the bar, signal to the bartender for assistance, move to another seat, or leave. “If you feel suddenly under threat,” Waugh says, “you just yell.”

Just as there are nefarious people wherever you go, there are kind and curious people, too. You have the opportunity to transform a local’s weeknight dinner into a charming memory. Be open to new connections, Nabongo says, and don’t assume everyone is out to harm you.

What do I do if I get sick or need help?

There are plenty of things that can go wrong when traveling, from the mundane — like getting lost — to the more serious, such as needing medical assistance. With no one else to rely on in a pinch, you may need to outsource help. For logistical issues, like asking for directions or inquiring how to purchase public transit passes, walk into a store and ask an employee or approach a family for assistance, Waugh says.

Waugh also recommends travel insurance , which covers medical expenses should you unexpectedly get sick or injured and need to be hospitalized. (Travel insurance also covers lost luggage and missed connecting flights .) In countries that have universal health care , a visit to a doctor or emergency room is generally cheaper than in the US, but travel insurance can cover the cost of evacuating you to a location where you can get appropriate care if you’re, say, in a remote area. The local US embassy or consulate office can also help you find a medical provider.

For less dire illnesses, local pharmacies are great resources, Waugh says. When she sprained her ankle in France a few years ago, she took an Uber ride to a nearby pharmacy, where employees helped her make an appointment with a specialist.

If you’re a victim of a crime overseas, contact the nearest US embassy or consulate ; they can replace a stolen passport, inform your family, and provide information about local points of contact or organizations familiar with that country’s laws. Involving police may not be helpful or even safe, so it’s up to you whether you want to file a police report if you’re involved in a crime, both stateside and internationally.

Although it’s important to be prepared for potential snafus, fear of the unknown should not hinder your experience. Millions of people live in traveler destinations — many by themselves — and don’t feel threatened by their hometowns. “In particular for women, society puts so much fear into us that I think is completely unwarranted,” Nabongo says. “The world is not as scary as they want us to believe it is.”

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Scared To Travel Alone: How 22 Globetrotters Overcame Their Solo Travel Anxiety

By Jessie Festa. This guide to overcoming fears of traveling alone contains affiliate links to trusted partners!

Scared to travel alone? You’re not the only one.

We asked 22 globetrotters to share their top solo travel fears — and how they overcame them.

The truth: Solo vacations can be extremely rewarding , as you’ll grow your relationship with yourself and learn what you’re truly capable of.

Keep reading for a serious dose of solo travel empowerment.

Need help deciding where to go solo? My free and fun travel personality quiz will help you uncover your perfect type of trip — with unique experience suggestions included — based on your responses to 10 visual questions. 

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My Favorite Solo Female Travel Destinations

Is solo travel fun ? It absolutely can be, especially if you choose solo-friendly places tailored to your interests. With that in mind, I wanted to quickly share some of my favorite solo female travel destinations :

Watch the one-minute video above to learn nine of them. All of these I felt were safe to explore on my own. Along with international destinations, the video showcases some of the best solo trips in the US .

Afterward, please share in the comments below what solo travel destinations you’d add to the list.

Afraid To Travel Alone: How To Travel By Yourself (& Feel Confident)

Here is what 22 female travelers and one male traveler had to share about being scared to travel alone — as well as overcoming that fear, including essential solo female travel tips .

It’s normal for anxiety to creep in as you weigh the various solo travel advantages and disadvantages , though hopefully, the following short travel stories help you see it’s possible to overcome — so that you can experience the ultimate feedom of traveling alone.

1. A Previous Scary Experience Held Me Back

I’ve always enjoyed traveling solo, but when I went to India in 2016, I had a scary experience while alone in Varanasi that made me feel fearful about traveling alone in the future.

For a little while afterwards, I had solo travel anxiety. I tried to avoid booking solo trips and ended up traveling less as I had to wait for a convenient time for my friends to travel with me.

Eventually, I decided to pluck up the courage to take another solo trip.

How? I reminded myself how much fun I’d had on my other solo trips to-date. In fact, even when I was in India , I didn’t let that one bad experience ruin my entire trip.

And as many of my friends pointed out, I stayed calm and handled the experience in a positive way. This helped me realize that I’m actually more than capable of having a successful and enjoyable solo trip.

-Kacie from The Rare Welsh Bit

2. Hostel Dorms Freaked Me Out

At the young age of 51 — after 15 years of traveling the globe extensively as a couple — I found myself single and planning a solo trip to Paris and London.

I quickly realized that staying in hostel dorms was the wisest lodging option for my limited solo travel budget ; however, it was those dorms that I so desperately dreaded.

Let’s just say it had been a while since I shared my bedroom with strangers.

My head was filled with  tales of smelly dorms and rowdy inconsiderate backpackers . In addition, I wondered if I’d get any sleep at all in a hostel dorm.

So I pushed my concerns aside and went through all the booking sites reviews, reading as many travel blogs from other female solo travelers as I could find.

My hope was to find encouragement and motivation. And I did. Tips and tricks from fellow midlife solo travelers inspired me, putting my discomforting thoughts to rest. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone, right?

“If other mature female travelers can do this so can I,” said that little voice in my head, as I reserved my first dorm bed in a Paris hostel.

-Nathalie from Marquestra

3. Potential Scary Encounters Abroad Made Me Nervous

My biggest fear when traveling is scary encounters abroad.

I’m terrified of being that girl that goes missing or who is attacked on a trip, especially since on my very first solo adventure I was jumped on by a man in a park.

Here’s what happened:

I was sitting in a public park in Munich. There was a pond with some ducks, which seemed like the perfect spot to rest my legs and catch up on my travel journal.

Then, this French man came to talk to me. He sat next to me, and we had this normal conversation about travel.

He seemed nice. Then things got weird.

After he was done with small talk, he put his hands on me and got on top of me.

I rolled out from under him, grabbed my bag, and looked around.

Did anyone see this?

Why wasn’t anyone coming to my aid?

I became really aware of my surroundings at that moment. The park was full of men, and they were all standing around watching this happen.

I was in my second city and had a lot more travel ahead of me before meeting up with my friends in Amsterdam.

In survival mode now, I ran to the busiest street in the city. For the rest of that trip, I made sure to stay in busy public spaces.

I could have ended my solo trip; but instead, I learned from it. Now when I travel to a new city on my own, I have a list of smart things to do/not do. A few items:

• Don’t find yourself alone on a path, in an alley or a large park
• Don’t be too distracted on my phone or in my notebook to see what’s going on around me

I also use anti-theft purses and bags ( like these ) with the locks clasped to protect my things. For me, it’s about traveling smart and staying very aware of my surroundings at all times.

-Sharon from Daily Dream 360

4. A Fear Of Flying Held Me Back

I am afraid of flying.

People are often surprised to hear that from someone who travels as much as I do, but it’s not as uncommon as you’d think.

It’s especially bad when I fly solo, since I don’t have anyone’s hand to hold.

I can’t say I’ve really conquered my fear, but I’ve learned to deal with it, even when I’m alone. Over the years, I’ve become conscious of which elements of flying trigger my fear, and I’m better at heading off the adrenaline jolt of panic before it happens.

One method that works for me:

Wearing noise-reduction headphones and watching videos at high volume, which prevents me from hearing many of the sounds that used to scare me.

Or if my neighbors are amenable, I chat with them, which distracts me from whatever the plane is doing.

I still tense up in turbulence, but I have a better understanding of what it is and how it works, which helps me stay calm.

My advice if you suffer from this fear as well and are considering solo travel is to study up:

Read about how planes work.

There are plenty of apps and books for fearful flyers , and knowing what’s going on around you really helps.

Another tip:

Practice in-flight relaxation techniques, and purchase gear that can help you sleep better on a plane .

-Rachel from Rachel’s Ruminations

5. Speaking A Foreign Language Made Me Nervous

My fear when I first starting traveling internationally was speaking to people in foreign countries.

I remember going into a store in Brussels and not saying a word to the cashier because I was afraid to speak.

I didn’t even say “Thank you” in English!

I think I was afraid they wouldn’t know English and I was going to sound really dumb in their language.

As I’ve traveled more, the fear has diminished.

Now, I regularly try to learn how to say “Hello”, “Good Morning” and “Thank you” in the local language.

Learning a few words helps me overcome my fear.

I also learned that some people in foreign countries are just as afraid to speak English so that also helped.

If you just try, many people will be so grateful that you even attempted to speak their language and will be more friendly towards you.

Plus, there are a number of two-way voice translators and even online language learning classes over Skype , that can help make communicating easier.

-Tiffany from A Girl and Her Passport

6. My First Day Solo In Europe Was Awful

On my first journey overseas at the age of 17, I was so nervous that I threw up multiple times.

Even worse, I got on the wrong train and ended up stranded for hours in a train station in Switzerland.

I was alone, sick, scare, and had no idea how to contact my family in Canada or my host family that was supposed to pick me up.

Hey, these were the pre-cell phone days.

When I tearfully asked a lady at the ticket counter for help, she slammed the window in my face.

As the sun set, I felt terrified that I would have to spend the night in this grungy train station, where people were getting drunk on the bench beside me.

This was not something I was looking forward to.

That said, I harvested my inner stubbornness — the same trait that allowed me to convince my family to let me go abroad alone in the first place — and marched around the station one last time.

Finally, I found a man at a desk who was willing to help me.

He called my host family in France and within an hour I was in their car on my way to their home.

Suffice to say, this was a pretty horrible first day in Europe.

And I had another three months ahead of me!

I could have let my anxiety get the best of me and go home; but instead, I took a deep breath and told myself that if my first day in Europe was this awful, it could only get better.

And it did. Staying positive, reminding myself that I am resourceful, and remembering that most people are good and helpful are all techniques I’ve used to successfully navigate solo trips.

Since that bad day in Europe, I’ve flown to Haiti alone to volunteer after the devastation 2010 earthquake as well as to Mali to work with an NGO and live with a local family.

If I had let fear win, I never would have been able to have these experiences. More importantly, I also wouldn’t have met amazing people while traveling alone.

That is perhaps the most important thing to remember about traveling solo. Even if you start out alone, you never will be alone for long.

-Thea from Zen Travellers

7. i imagined all the things that could go wrong.

As a landscape photography fanatic, I’ve always wanted to visit Iceland for its incredible scenery.

However, it’s also somewhere I figured I’d wait and visit with “Mr Right”.

Well, I got fed up waiting for him, and booked a solo Iceland road trip in September.

After I’d booked it — and again on the way to the airport — I had a little panic attack.

I’d barely heard of anyone road-tripping in Iceland alone.

Was it because it was so remote?

Would anyone find me if I got lost?

Or if I broke down, how would I get help if there was no signal on my phone?

I turned to one of the extremely supportive female travel networks I’m a member of on Facebook.

Within seconds of posting, I had a barrage of “you’ve got this, you are a strong independent woman” messages, along with “I did the same thing and I was just fine.”

Most of my home friends are married with kids, so very few understand my solo travel mentality.

These Facebook girls, however, get it. They said exactly what I needed to hear.

And you know what?

I was just fine.

Iceland is not quite as remote as I’d imagined.

Actually, it’s far too popular with tourists!

The roads were clearly marked and the phone signal absolutely fine.

I never felt unsafe or vulnerable, and had the best time.

I’d recommend if you’re nervous about traveling solo, reach out to others like you and you’ll realize you’re not really alone.

-Leanne from The Globetrotter GP

8. Getting Sick Abroad Scared Me

My biggest fear when traveling alone is getting seriously ill or injured, especially in a developing country far from home.

While not all health emergencies can be avoided, I prepare by:

• Getting any necessary vaccinations
• Stocking a good first-aid kit
• Protecting myself from mosquito bites
• Buying travel insurance with medical evacuation coverage

I also always have contact information of reliable hospitals and doctors on hand; any good travel guidebook will provide a list of reputable local English-speaking facilities.”

-Ingrid from Second-Half Travels

9. Unwanted Attention From Men Made Me Nervous

I’ve traveled to over 100 countries — most of them solo — but I still remember my first trip abroad alone and how I felt.

What was I going to do all day?

What would happen if I got lost?

One thing I wasn’t ready for was the amount of male attention I would get.

I think one of the things you need to be aware of is that you will often receive a lot of unwanted attention in some of the male-dominated countries.

My suggestion:

Dress locally ( scarf shawl s come in handy!), be confident, and do not focus on who is right and wrong.

Nothing is foolproof, but you should research the destination to understand their culture.

Here’s an example:

When I visited Morocco solo , I received a lot of unwanted male attention. I remained polite and just kept walking to my destination.

I always knew where I was going next; and if not, I could discreetly look at my app maps.me, which allows you to use maps offline, to find my next destination. I refuse to allow it to ruin my travels.

-Nicole from Nicole La Barge

10. I Was Nervous To Dine Alone

One of the biggest fears I used to have about traveling alone was the loneliness I would feel at meal times.

More than that, I thought I’d look ridiculous dining alone at a restaurant, when everyone else around me would be enjoying the company of friends, family and a special one.

It didn’t take long during my first solo trip to realize I actually quite enjoy sitting by myself, not trying to make small talk as I eat, and properly savoring every bite.

I’ve also realized that there are many more people eating alone than I would have thought.

In fact, quite often I end up striking up a conversation with others around me.

The best way to do this:

Sitting at the bar rather than at a table — it looks like people sitting at the bar are always more open to conversation.

I have done this in several places in Cape Town — like Knysna Oysters at the V&A Waterfront — and it really works!

If I feel particularly lonely and homesick, which hardly happens, I take out my smartphone and chat to my family and friends while I eat.

There are even times when I want to completely isolate myself and take out my book.

I enjoy eating by myself so much that I now do it at home, too!

-Claudia from My Adventures Across the World

11. I Had A Fear Of Being Judged

When I was 19, I desperately wanted to travel abroad, but I was afraid to do it alone.

My main fear:

That people would judge me.

I thought they’d think I was a loser for being by myself, and wouldn’t want to talk to me.   

To help with my fears I started doing small activities in my hometown by myself, like going for walks in the parks, browsing shops and eating out.

This allowed me to become more comfortable spending time with myself, and over time I realized much of my fear was just inside my head.  

Eventually, I gained enough courage and bought a one-way ticket to Ireland.    Of course, the first day abroad I was scared. I wanted to hide inside my room, but instead I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and went down to the common room of my hostel.

As a result, my eyes were opened to the wonderful possibilities of solo travel .

As I began to meet many other solo travelers while traveling alone in Ireland , I realized that it’s not strange to explore the world on your own.

In fact, it’s more common than not.

Now, almost a decade later, solo is the way I prefer to travel.   

It has helped me develop so much confidence in myself.

It has opened my eyes to endless possibilities and has helped me form incredible friendships with strangers from all over the world.

If you want to travel but are afraid to do it alone, I encourage you to try it.

If you aren’t ready for a big trip, start with a small one to build your confidence.

Trust me, you are not the only one out there traveling alone. I know it can be scary to make that first step, but I guarantee the rewards will be worth it.”

-Lora from Explore with Lora

12. I Was Scared Of Not Being Understood

My main fear about traveling alone is not being understood.

I live in the Philippines, and most people in my country can speak conversational English.

So in my naivety, I held the same expectation in other countries.

When I moved to Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia, I found out that locals can speak English in main tourist areas; but in local neighborhoods, some people don’t understand a word.

I once ate out and ordered a rice meal and water and instead got noodles and iced milo.

I dealt with this issue by learning local words to get by — numbers from 1-10, items I would normally buy in groceries or order in restaurants, phrases to use when asking for directions.

My advice for other solo female travelers is to bring with you a few local words.

It’s also smart to bring a phone with data in case you need to translate phrases.

Also, whenever you’re afraid to approach someone, just do what I do:

Take a deep breath and go for it!

-Katherine from Tara Lets Anywhere

13. i was afraid of the burden i’d put on my family if something bad happened.

As the oldest child and a single mother, I have long been the leader and guiding force in my family.

I help everyone through difficult times, and often ease the financial burdens of siblings and children.

Traveling alone has never been a fear in the typical sense, as I am confident in my ability to get through almost any situation; but it brings anxiety, because of my role in the family.

The idea that if something were to happen to me there may be an extreme burden upon my family is unacceptable.

To address this, I’ve established a system that ensures they would have the information and assistance needed if something happened to me.

First, my home and affairs are in order before departure. The house is clean and organized, the bills are paid.

Second, I have prepared a set of documents that includes my will, financial institutions and account information, as well as directions and passwords.

Those documents are mailed to one of my sons in “the envelope,” upon each departure. It is never opened, and given back to me upon my return.

Lastly, I have set up a support system of trusted friends to assume certain tasks, including closing online applications, retrieving my affects and contacting my children to initiate insurance claims.

Knowing these actions are all in place to help my family has freed me to travel with much less worry, and I believe it would help others in my position.

-Roxanna from Gypsy with a Day Job

14. I’d Been The Victim Of Theft Abroad Before

As female travelers, we are often the “easy” target for shady people.

Well, that’s what they think at least.

Anyway, I was scared to travel solo in Paris with my DSLR, because that’s a costly item and I’d had my previous camera stolen.

But then I woke up to the reality that it can happen anywhere, even in my hometown, and if I just take a few precautions, I’d feel much safer.

So, what I do now is I…

• Always purchase travel insurance
• Never leave my belongings unattended
• Watch my surroundings

If the place seems dodgy, I just leave my camera in my bag.

These simple measures make me feel much better and considerably less anxious.

And even if it happens again, I can tell you this:

It won’t stop me from traveling the world!

-Bruna from Maps ‘N Bags

15. I Had Nobody To Talk Me Out Of My “Loneliness” Fear

My biggest fear before traveling alone was that I would be lonely all the time.

I figured that I would be so bored because I would always be doing things completely by myself, and that I would be the only solo traveler out there.

The people around me mirrored this belief back to me, because nobody I knew had traveled solo.

Once I started traveling in Southeast Asia  — my first stop — I realized that I was completely wrong about how many other solo travelers there would be.

I was far from the only one!

Just by staying in hostels, which are social by nature, I would have a built-in network of friends pretty much immediately everywhere I went.

It turned out that I was almost never alone, and certainly never bored.

-Kristin from Be My Travel Muse

16. I Feared I Wouldn’t Fit In On The Road Solo

I had great solo travel anxiety over whether I’d be able to fit in, make friends and get to know locals.

I travel long term, so it’s essential not to be isolated; but even on a short trip, I think we all want to be tourists who can relax and get to know locals.

What’s worked for me has been actively reaching out in online spaces where travelers connect.

Couchsurfing operates hang outs in most cities where travelers go to relax and make a friends.

Meetup has language exchange groups.

Or just search “expats in [insert destination]” in Google and make a forum post asking to hang out with other locals or solo travelers.

Be brave, plan ahead and it will make all the difference. 

-Danielle from Live In 10 Countries

17. I Didn’t Know If Being An Introvert Would Ruin My Solo Trip

Before heading out on my first solo trip many years ago, I was worried about all of the unknowns that come with travel.

Would I get bored and lonely traveling alone?

Would I feel safe?

Would I become less adventurous on my own?

As an introvert, would I keep too much to myself ?

I had many fears but I decided to face each one.

These days when I travel solo, I choose places where I’ll feel comfortable and safe, even if it costs a bit more.

Each morning, I text my husband or my mom to let them know what my general plans are, especially if I’m planning a day trip.

And I make an effort to talk with people when I’m out and about, often signing up for day tours with other people or looking for places to eat where people share tables.

Now that I know what works for me, I relish traveling solo.

If you’re thinking about traveling alone, it’s okay to be nervous.

Just don’t let fear stop you from seeing the world!

-Cate from International Desserts Blog

18. standing out due to physical appearance was a challenge.

Traveling solo as a woman can be such a joy, but with it comes challenges.

During my travels in Asia, I’ve encountered the challenge of standing out due to my height, race and hair.

I am a 5’6″ white woman with blonde, curly hair.

Needless to say, I don’t look like the locals; and as a result, I attract stares, and sometimes unwanted attention from men.

Over time I’ve adopted a strategy to respond with cautious friendliness while still being aware of my surroundings and safety.

Here’s a story:

On my first full day in Seoul, South Korea, I was sitting on a bench waiting for a temple to open nearby.

An older Korean gentleman saw me and began to walk very quickly in my direction.

I was a bit concerned, but decided that I was in a safe setting surrounded by many people and stayed in place.

In English, he asked if I was American or Canadian. I replied American.

Then he asked what city and I responded Los Angeles.

A huge smile spread across his face and he told me about the time he lived in Los Angeles, many years ago.

We chatted for a few minutes and then he left.

My first connection with a local had been lovely.

A few days later I was in a Dunkin Donuts enjoying breakfast when a young man nearby began to ask me questions.

We began to chat, but quickly his questions became intrusive and inappropriate.

We were the only patrons, and the clerk had disappeared into the back.

I stood, excused myself, tossed the remains of my meal, and walked quickly back towards my hotel.

When I’m traveling solo, I try to be open to meeting local residents while never losing sight of my safety.

My advice to other women:

Always assess the environment.

• Are there others around?
• Can you find an exit if needed?
• Can you retreat to a safer setting if you are feeling uncomfortable?

Solo travel can be exciting and liberating, so I hope all women will be open to the experience while still guarding their safety.

-Wendy from Empty Nesters

19. I Thought The Waiters Would Pity Me

I used to hate dining alone.

I thought people would stare at me, and that waiters would pity me.

That awful moment of asking for a table for one, and the look of surprise on the waiter’s face.

Sitting down and them bringing two menus automatically, so I’d have to explain I was alone.

The reality, though, is that waiters are often friendlier to me when I’m alone.

They make an extra effort to chat, or to give me a large glass of wine.

Perhaps that is pity, but I think now that I’m more confident dining alone there is no need to feel sorry for me.

If I feel uncomfortable alone, I sometimes take a book or journal, or take photos like I’m a food critic who’ll be reviewing the restaurant.

But mostly, I just sit and enjoy.

I love dining alone now as I can choose exactly what I want to eat; no guilt, no compromise.

Whether I want to gorge on street food or treat myself to a three-course meal, I just do it and enjoy it.

I like to savor everything I eat, and love to people watch, too.

I wonder what people are thinking while they’re eating — who they are with, and why.

Is it a first date perhaps?

A shady business meeting?

Friends who haven’t seen each other for years?

That usually keeps me busy between courses!

The best tip for women dining alone though is to just enjoy the experience. Relish it!

-Claire from Tales of a Backpacker

20. Encountering Insects Alone Freaks Me Out

My greatest fear when traveling solo is encountering insects.

For me, there’s nothing that sends me over the edge faster when I’m alone in my hotel room than seeing a huge cockroach or tarantula scurry under my bed.

The fact that I got dengue fever from a mosquito bite doesn’t help.

I’ve now got a bug-busting “travel toolkit” that has helped me overcome my fears.

My toolkit includes:

• Tips on how to choose a room with fewer insects
• Why you should always travel with duct tape (to seal gaps in windows and doors)
• Why long-sleeved clothing is best for the tropics
• The best DEET repellent
• Many other inexpensive but indispensable strategies for avoiding insects and bugs

While I’m still not a fan of discovering a scorpion in my shoe or a giant cockroach in my bed, at least I’m able to control my anxiety and function, and not scream hysterically or call security.

-Michele from A Taste for Travel

21. Going Out Alone At Night

I love taking pictures.

I love it so much that many times, as it happens, I keep doing it for so long without minding anything else.

It’s sort of like meditation.

This has led to a few strange situations, especially after heading somewhere to catch the sunset and its golden light.

For instance:

There was a time in India when I realized it was dark and I was alone in a long, narrow alley.

No other women were in sight, and there were random men daring wild-eyed at me.

Another time a policeman in the Dominican Republic asked why I was still at a particular square, and where exactly I was staying.

He demanded he and his partner take me back to my hotel, as the spot was apparently dangerous at night, especially for solo female travelers.

Long story short:

If you also get easily absorbed in your surroundings, be kind to yourself and either:

• Choose sunrises
• Leave the pretty spot right after sunset, before it gets too dark
• Get a trustworthy companion to wander with at night

These solo female travel tips have helped me a lot.

-Inma from A World to Travel

22. Social Anxiety Kept Solo Vacations From Happening

Social anxiety was my major obstacle to solo travel from when I was old enough to do it, right through to my early thirties.

I traveled with my ex-wife in my twenties, and got glimpses of solo travel when I left her at the accommodation to go out and experience the nightlife in various South American cities; but I never thought I’d really experience proper solo travel.

It wasn’t until my divorce at 30 that I realized outside of my comfort zone was where all the best things started to happen.

Once you hit 30 it can be hard to find friends to travel with, since everyone is partnered up and starting to have kids, so there was little other choice than to embrace my new-found freedom.

I quickly realized that traveling solo rarely meant actually being alone, and I had the time of my life traveling like never before.

-Neil from Bushwalking Blog

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Thank you so much for putting this article together, and sharing these experiences – you really don;t know how much it means to me, and I can empathise with every single story. This is something that stops people from travelling, something that stopped me from travelling for many years, and it’s heartbreaking. I regret every year that I didn’t travel because I was afraid to.

Seeing these stories from people who’ve been there and overcome it is such a massive boost, a huge inspiration, and I’ll be sharing this as much as possible!

I love this post. I have so much anxiety about travelling alone, but everyone’s stories have made me think I really really need to give it a go! Thank you!

This is a wonderful post and a very comprehensive guide. I had to deal also with some sort of travel anxiety and I’m glad that I could handle it; I’m now almost 15 years into traveling solo and the best part is that I enjoy it! Safe travels 🙂

Thank you so much for the post it was really truly helpful ! I appreciated it!

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The Pros and Cons of Solo Travel

Solo travel is something everyone should try at some point in their life. There's no better way to get to know who you are as a person than by spending time with yourself away from the distractions of life.

Solo travel, couple travel, and travel with friends all have their pros and cons and it can be tough to know which will suit you best. This article outlines the advantages and disadvantages of hitting the road on your own for the first time .

Personal Growth and Setting Your Own Schedule

One benefit of solo travel is that it forces you to become independent, make decisions, and step out of your comfort zone on a regular basis—something you wouldn't necessarily do if you weren't traveling alone.

When you travel solo, you have nobody to rely on but yourself, and that pushes you to learn how to function in the world. It's sink-or-swim time! If something goes wrong , it's down to you to figure out how to get out of the situation.

Another great benefit to solo travel is not having to compromise on your travels. You can wake up whenever you want, eat whatever you want, decide to have a lazy day, or choose to go on a 12-hour hike. When you're traveling solo, you can be selfish and change your mind every few days and not have to consult anybody else.

Meeting People and Building Confidence

One of the biggest benefits of solo travel is how easy it is to meet people on the road . All you need to do is wander into a hostel common room and within minutes, someone will strike up a conversation with you—it really is that easy!

You'll also find that when traveling solo, you're much more approachable than when you're in a couple or a group. A lot of travelers will assume that if you're already in a group, you don't want to be disturbed, and will turn to the solo traveler almost every time.

Solo travel can be helpful for your mental state, too. Solo travel builds confidence as you navigate an unfamiliar city, converse with strangers and figure out how to get from one place to another. Your social skills will also improve as you meet more and more people and get used to introducing yourself and making conversation.

Freedom and Time for Reflection

Another item in the "pro" column for solo travel is that is can be a time for reflection and solitude and can help bring peace to your mind. You'll get to know yourself better than you ever have before, learn what truly makes you happy and what you need to work on to improve as a person. It can often be challenging to face these truths but learning to overcome them is all part of the process of growing.

You can spend time working on a hobby, reading books in coffee shops around town, hiking every day, or simply sitting and meditating. When you're on your own, you can do whatever you want without having to worry about anyone else. That freedom is incredibly liberating. 

Avoiding Loneliness

One downside of traveling alone for long periods of time with no constant in your life is that it can be draining, and you may struggle with issues of loneliness. Not having someone to share all those amazing experiences with can be disheartening and lead to depression. Homesickness is something every long-term traveler deals with, and the effects can be amplified when you're alone.

Higher Costs

For budget-minded travelers, another downside is that traveling alone nearly always works out to be much more expensive than traveling as a couple. As a couple, you can share meals, stay in private rooms and split many of your expenses. You'll also often find that for private tours you'll be charged a lot more if you plan on taking it alone. There's no doubt about it: solo travel supplements suck. 

As a solo traveler, you'll have to pay a single room supplement if you're going to be in private rooms, you have to stay in Airbnb apartments without having someone to split the costs. In some parts of the world, like South Korea, meals are served family-style so you'll even have to pay more to eat alone in a restaurant or rely on fast food. It makes sense that businesses would charge more money for one person, but it certainly does punish solo travelers for something they can't control. Time to start making friends and sharing rooms so you can split the cost!

Safety Considerations

While solo travel isn't unsafe , it's definitely less safe than traveling with other people, making the safety issue a "con" of traveling alone. You're more vulnerable when you're on your own because you only have you looking after you. When you're in a group, you'll have other people to look out for scams, to steer you away from danger, and make you less likely to get lost. 

So while this shouldn't make you avoid solo travel, you should take extra precautions in order to keep yourself safe. Things, like being cautious when out alone after dark, researching unsafe neighborhoods before you arrive, and not getting too drunk when out with hostel friends, are all things that will improve your safety levels on the road. 

Missing the Human Connection

When you travel all the way to Sydney and stand in front of the Sydney Opera House , sometimes it's a little underwhelming. You don't have somebody to turn to and discuss how incredible it looks and how amazing it feels to be living your travel dream. Instead, you snap a few photos, you sit and look at it in awe and silence, and then you leave. Solo travel is one of the best things you can do for yourself, but it sometimes it's a little underwhelming when you don't have someone you love to share it with. 

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7 Things to Hate About Solo Travel (Even Though They’ll Make You a Better Traveler)

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Solo travel is a surprisingly divisive way to vacation: it’s something people either love or loathe. I have a strong love/hate relationship with solo travel—there are some aspects that I treasure (being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want) and others I dread (feeling lonely). I’ve found though, that the things I hate most about solo travel have actually helped me become a happier and more confident explorer. Here are my least favorite things about solo travel, and the reasons why they will make you a better traveler.

Worst Things About Solo Travel (That Are Actually Good for You)

Eating alone.

No matter how confident you are, the words “ table for one please” can be tough to utter, especially in a foreign country. But eating out alone helps boost confidence (once you’ve done it a few times, it gets easier), and often times leads to meeting new people, especially if you opt to sit at the bar to dine instead of at a table. This can be particularly great if you utilize your solo travel status to meet locals while you’re eating—you can get some amazing tips about your destination this way.

The Single Supplement

The single supplement— the premium charge that many vacation companies or cruise lines levy upon solo travelers for having the audacity to take up a room all to themselves—can feel like a penalty tax for traveling alone.

However, if you research, you can find plenty of cruise providers and tours that are designed to work with single travelers (and have special, smaller rooms that don’t incur a solo supplement, or will waive the surcharge if you agree to be matched up with a roommate). Here is a good round-up of solo-friendly travel companies. Bonus: solo-friendly companies tend to be great at helping people traveling alone meet others.

Not Having Anyone to Watch your Stuff

We’ve all been there—that epic struggle to squeeze yourself and your suitcase into a tiny bathroom stall because you don’t have anyone you trust to watch your bag. After you’ve done that dance once or twice, you’ll learn how to pack light quickly, which can increase your sense of self-reliance and resourcefulness.

Having to Rely on Yourself

When I travel with other people, it’s easy to let others compensate for my weaknesses. For example, if I’m traveling with someone who speaks the local language, I’ll just sit back and let my companion do all the talking on a trip. When I’m on a solo travel journey, I have no other choice but to solve all of my own problems as they arise—which can mean getting better at languages, navigation, currency converting, and everything else that comes with the new territory.

Not Having Anyone to Take Your Picture

Solo travel means fewer cliched travel photos—because you don’t have a built-in photographer by your side. Rather than mourn the fact that you’re missing out on great Instagram shots, focus on the positive—you’re much more likely to be present and enjoy the moment than you would if you were worrying about getting the perfect pose. Either that, or you’ll perfect your selfie skills, both of which are causes for celebration.

There’s No Safety in the Number One

There’s a sense of safety in numbers, and traveling alone can be scary—and feel limiting. You may be less likely to go for a walk at night, might not want to explore the local nightlife, or decide to pass on tasting the signature cocktail at your destination. And that can be a good thing, because you force yourself to try other activities for entertainment that you might not have considered if you were traveling in a group.

Not Having Anyone to Talk To

When you’ve just experienced something amazing and you don’t have anyone to share the moment with, solo travel can feel lonely. But, solo travel also means that you don’t have anyone to distract you—so you can take time to journal your thoughts about an experience uninterrupted, or meditate/reflect peacefully without having to make small talk.

More from SmarterTravel:

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Caroline Morse has a love/hate relationship with solo travel. Follow her on Instagram @TravelwithCaroline and Twitter @CarolineMorse1 to see her adventures (solo and otherwise) around the world.

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For Those Afraid of Traveling Alone

April 12, 2021 by Janice Waugh

I often hear from readers that they simultaneously have a great desire to travel solo and are afraid of traveling alone.

Some of their fears are about travel in general: fear of flying, for example, though a serious case requires professional support. Others are specific to solo travel.

In this post I'm going to try to address both. But first, let's look at fear.

Doubts and fears are actually there to keep us safe. But they can also be unnecessarily paralyzing. It's this side of travel fear that I want to address. But, I'm not doing it alone. I put out a call on the question of travel fears and concerns to a site called HelpAReportOut. I asked what prevents people who want to travel from doing so and received a lot of great advice to share here. Let's dig in.

Facing the Fear of Traveling Alone Head-on

One of the first steps in facing any fear is to name it. Break it down to see the source of the fear and determine whether it makes sense or not. Below is a list of reasons people might be afraid of traveling alone. Click on each fear to read recommendations on how to overcome them.:

• Worry about being lonely
• The media suggesting that the world is dangerous
• Concern about one's own safety
• Feeling awkward eating alone
• Health challenges and pre-existing conditions
• Mobility issues is a challenge
• Culture shock
• Fear of not liking the food of another country
• Mental health
• Concern for pets
• Family responsibilities

Solutions to Travel Fears

• Have faith. Solo travelers are rarely lonely. It's not that solo travelers are never lonely. They are on occasion. But the readers of Solo Traveler frequently comment on how many people they meet because they're traveling alone. Certainly, that's my experience. Read  How to Travel Alone Without Being Lonely: 10 Tips & 12 Posts .
• Avoid reading and watching the media if they make you anxious . This fear and solution was offered by Aaron Edwards of Life Travelers Traveling Life. “The media does not show all the good happening around the world, just the bad” he wrote. He's right. So, if the news makes you anxious, stop watching it before you travel. Go cold turkey on the crime shows as well. Read  Great Advice for Solo Travel Confidence: You’ll Be Okay .
• Plan to be safe . There's a difference between worrying unnecessarily about the world not being safe and planning to be safe just as you have to do at home. Read 5 Principles of Solo Travel Safety for an overview of the fundamentals or for more, Solo Travel Safety: 50 Tips .
• Eat alone with confidence . For some solo travelers this is the issue that makes them most afraid of traveling alone. But it's not that difficult to eat alone comfortably or find a great dinner option for solo travelers. Read  Eating Alone is Easy When You Know How .
• Dealing with physical limitations in travel . Kristen Hovet raised this issue. Here's her story and solution. “I am 37 years old and love to travel, but I have a connective tissue disorder that affects my joints and several organ systems. This means that any kind of sustained travel (most especially long flights), change in diet that often comes with visiting new places, and disruptions to my sleep schedule are particularly hard on my body. …I still travel just about every year… But I always have to take special measures to include the down time I need to feel better again and actually enjoy my travel destination.” Jessica of Independent Travel Cats  mentioned the fear of travel for people who have a pre-existing health problem or have had a health scare. “I always recommend that people first check with a health professional about their concerns. If they are cleared to travel by their doctor, they should research the destination and be prepared in case they do need medical care while traveling. So this might include getting travel medical insurance, wearing a medical bracelet, making sure they have an adequate supply of medication for the trip, knowing which medical facilities in the region they are traveling are equipped to handle their problem, letting travel companions know about their condition, etc.” Concerning insurance, read  Going Alone? Travel Insurance is a Must .
• “cruises as well as small ship/river cruises. They generally have elevator access and may have to meet different jurisdictional requirements as to those with disabilities. In addition, shore excursions are optional allowing travelers to pick and choose what works for them.
• Look for destinations like Hong Kong with new construction and high rises since elevators would be required making it easier to use wheelchairs and scooters. In contrast, research carefully before selecting charming, remote European destinations as they are unlikely to have accessible lodging and sights.
• Find out if you can rent scooters or other aids at your destination for short periods. If you cannot, check requirements for meeting enhanced security for travel through airports and ships.”
• Getting past culture shock . Julien Mordret of Exploration Junkie , who has been traveling for eleven years, mostly solo, says that “it is important to realize that we all have some sort of comfort zone, and it is going outside of it that makes us grow as a person. I think careful planning and a lot of reading about the destination can help reassure yourself and increase your self-confidence before the trip.”
• Getting excited about foods in new countries . Julien also suggests that “some people already feel picky with food in their own country, so it makes sense that it might be even worse in a different country with a different cuisine. A solution could be as simple as trying some exotic food from your local market and you will realize that it's totally fine. If the fear is about spicy food, there is always the possibility to ask to have it non-spicy.” Here are some tips for researching local food before you travel: Culinary Travel: Top Tips for Food and Wine Travel Planning.
• Mental health challenges and travel . Cat from Body with Mind was suffering from depression and crippling anxiety before her first trip so “obviously, the thought of jumping on a plane and going to a country I'd never been to, was the last thing I wanted to do. … Did I mention I was also claustrophobic and so flying was an unpleasant experience? All it took was one moment of bravery to just book a flight and a hostel and the rest was history. Take advantage of that one fleeting moment of adventurous spirit and book in a solo trip. Once it's booked and there's no going back, you'll be surprised how quickly your brain starts to adapt.” Tabby from JustCantSettle.com  also shared her approach to her mental health challenge. “The two key things for me were mental health and nerves around the safety of solo travel as a young woman in countries where I didn't speak the language, know anyone I could call in an emergency, etc. … Different people's experiences of mental health vary wildly and how they deal with their problems will be different for every individual, but for me it was having conversations with my friends, sitting and mapping out my goals and what made me happy and what didn't. … After stewing on it and taking small steps – facing a small fear every day, setting myself little life challenges like going to a gig alone, staying overnight alone in another city, taking a weekend break alone instead of with someone else – I put pen to paper and worked out that my chances of being miserable and anxious were much greater if I stayed at home, that my mental health was not being helped by staying where I was and doing the same old thing. I had panic attacks in busy markets in Vietnam, I had down days in Thailand, but overall I have always had incredible experiences as a solo traveler and would do it all again in a heartbeat.”
• Concern for pets . Lindsey Danis wrote that her concern for her dog was a challenge. “While it didn't hold me back from taking a 5-week trip, I did worry about whether something would happen to my senior pet while I was gone. … What helped me leave my furry friend behind was finding someone trustworthy to care for him while I was away (my roommate and my mom shared caretaker duties), placing pictures of my pet on my devices so I could look at him while I was away, checking in on Skype, and accepting that loss could come at any time, whether or not I traveled. It wasn't easy to go, but I had a great time and managed to worry less when I was away. While my pet has since passed away, he did survive the trip.
• Family responsibilities . Katherine of Bright Lights of America says that “perceived familial responsibility was the biggest factor that held me back from travel for a few years. I'd been an expat in London for a while and moved back to Australia when my mother became ill. After she died I felt that I couldn't resume expat life and the travel that I wanted to do because I didn't want to leave my father or my brothers alone. It felt as though I was abandoning them to deal with the ongoing grief and the family business to pursue a selfish dream. Talking through that guilt with a psychologist and then with my family was what eventually set me on the path to take up work in San Francisco. It was a long road to working out that I could support them from wherever I lived, and that we all had to move on with our lives. I've been in San Francisco for two and a half years now and while it can be tough sometimes, it helps to remember that I am not solely in control of other peoples' happiness.

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6 Annoying Solo Travel Problems & How to Avoid Them!

By: Author Sophie Pearce

Posted on Last updated: August 17, 2023

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Although there can be solo travel problems, there is no doubt that travelling on your own can be the most amazing, liberating and powerful experience you can ever have in your life.

It’s scary, new and makes you grow. You become a stronger person from it. 

But, it doesn’t come without its challenges. It’s a big learning curve.

The first time that I travelled abroad alone, I was sick to my stomach. There were so many thoughts going through my head.

• “Will I get bored?”
• “what if I don’t like it and want to come home?”
• “will I be safe?”

My mind was spinning. But, when I finally took the plunge, I realised that it was one of the best decisions I ever made.

I had a revelation; I can travel the world without having to rely on anyone else! What a feeling.

I’ve travelled solo to many countries now. Even some which people would deem ‘dangerous’ and every single time, I look back with a sense of pride.

I’ve overcome my anxieties, limiting beliefs and what society expects of me and lived to tell the tale. If little old me can do it, you can do it too!

Travelling solo is a little different than travelling with people so, having learnt from them the hard way, I’ve thought of 6 solo travel problems and how to avoid them.

6 Solo travel problems and how to avoid them

1. you have to pay for everything.

The problem:  Everything comes out of your budget.

Hotels, meals, drinks all come from you. The biggest dent will be hotel bills, there’s no one to split the cost.

Although this may not seem a lot of money at first, it can get quite pricey and you’ll feel like you’re burning a hole in your wallet.

The solution: One of the biggest tips I can give anyone when travelling solo is to double your budget and half your luggage load!

Try to save up as much money as you can. A lot of hotels do single traveller room rates, so you’re not paying double for sleeping alone.

You could also stay in hostels which are the perfect place for singletons. Hostels also do some really good deals on meals so you’re money will stretch further.

As I’m getting older, I just cannot deal with the lack of sleep I get in hostels anymore.

But, if you’re a deep sleeper, it’s the perfect cost-effective option. To see the secret of travelling the world cheaply, click here. 

2. Travelling alone on transport can be daunting

The problem:  If you’re travelling on planes, buses or trains, it can be daunting to not know who you’re going to be sat next to. Especially if you’re travelling overnight.

Also, if you need to get up to go to the loo, you don’t know if someone will nick your seat and even worse, steal your stuff. So, this can be a bit complicated to work around.

The solution:  Personally, if I’m travelling solo, I choose to travel during the day. It’s just not worth getting stressed about travelling overnight with people I don’t know.

Locals, tourists or backpackers; it’s the luck of the draw.

Usually, if I’m travelling I try to make friends to chat to and have some company.

Most of the time when you’re following a popular bus route through a country, you’ll meet other people travelling that way who’ll be happy for the company too.

I always make sure I put luggage locks on my bags and suitcase just for that added sense of security and peace of mind.

See my guide for surviving night buses while travelling.

3. You have to navigate yourself

The problem: I don’t really see this one as a problem but more of a challenge. It’s like a puzzle you have to solve.

You’re in charge of the map and you have to navigate yourself. You have to research where you want to go and how to get there.

You have to make sure you make it to the airport on time. There’s no fresh pair of eyes to check you’re going the right way or a second opinion.

It can give an awesome sense of achievement but also can present some mistakes. Luckily, you only have yourself to blame and you can learn from it.

The solution: Belief in yourself.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Use Tripadvisor, read travel blogs, pin some travel lust to Pinterest, or use google maps!

Did you know that the current location pin on google maps doesn’t require data or wifi? Your smartphone has GPS and so you can plan your route in the hotel on the free wifi, then follow the pin without!

Life-saving tip. You can plan a whole itinerary before you leave to ensure you’re occupied.

Do your research, so you know where to go. Most cities have a great public transport system and it’s one of my favourite past times to work it out.

Or, simply walk around and explore off the beaten track places by foot!

Click here to see the 5 best apps to use when you travel. 

4. You don’t have anyone to take pictures for you

The problem:  Ah, solo travel photos. It can be a problem if you want to get photos taken when you’re on your own.

When I first went travelling solo I didn’t even think about taking photos. I was more concentrating on staying alive (lol). But, as I travel solo more often now and I’ve created my travel blog this was a challenge I had to overcome.

I could ask people to take my photos all the time but

a) I feel bad about asking and taking up someones time,

b) it’s not how I imagine it’s going to look in my head or

c) the person taking it completely misses out some of the attraction (not that I’m not grateful but how can you miss out the top of the Eiffel tower?! Lol)

The solution:  As I knew I wanted to get solo travel photos I bought an Olympus Pen DSLR camera with wifi capability and a tripod.

I then use a remote shutter off my iPhone so I know what the picture looks like. There isn’t any magic pixie following me around.

Most of the pictures on my blog and Instagram are taken solely by me.

It was a complete game changer and meant I could take travel photos alone easier. Sure, people laugh and stare, but I’ve gone past the point of caring. I have as much right to get a photo as the next person.

If you’re not ready to take the plunge into remote shutter when you’re asking for a photo just communicate with the person taking it.

What do you want in it? How do you want it? The person taking it won’t know unless you say!

Click here to read my ULTIMATE Guide on how to take photos of yourself while travelling solo

5. You can get lonely

The problem: Travelling solo can be novel for the first day or two but after a while you need some human interaction!

There have been many times when I’m travelling solo when I’ve thought “oh, it would be good if x was here”, “if x was here, we’d have such a laugh”. Not talking to anyone for a whole day can feel like a lifetime if you’re used to having people around.

The solution: Be open, confident and talk to people. The amount of times I’ve made friends in India by just talking to people is crazy.

Go to hostels or traveller bars and cafes to make friends.

Hire a tour guide to know more about the place and have a chat. It can be difficult in the cities but there will always be people and a thousand possibilities!

If you really don’t want to, arrange a video call back home.

It’s so easy to keep in touch nowadays. Technology has come a long way from landline phones or posts! Although sending postcards is fun too :).

Click here to see the 21 things that only travelling can teach you. 

6. You have to eat alone

The problem:  This used to be my biggest worry when travelling solo. I’d hate it when I walked into a restaurant and have the stares.

The pitiful eyes, the confused looks. I’d also feel bad about taking a table solo by the window. It can be scary eating alone, especially in a new country you don’t know!

The solution:  Own it and be confident. No one cares at the end of the day. You’re never going to see these people again so just enjoy it.

Order the meal platter, eat a desert and toast your damn self!

If you did want some more tips to dining solo see; ‘Eating at restaurants while travelling solo…Like a Boss!’

You can overcome these solo travel problems

Sure, travelling solo comes with a few extra challenges that you will need to iron out but once you’ve mastered it and know what to expect, it is truly liberating.

You don’t have to answer to anyone, you can do what you want, when you want to and it’s incredible!

I wouldn’t give up my solo travel experiences for the world as I feel it’s made me a stronger person and it’s forced me to get over some of the fears I never even knew I had.

So, get out there and see this beautiful planet we live on, even if it’s alone.

Take a leap of faith and trust; the universe has your back!

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Sunday 18th of February 2024

Just about to go off alone to India and your blog has been amazing inspiration. Moved from nervous to beyond excitement in the space of an of an afternoon, thank you!

Sophie Pearce

Monday 19th of February 2024

Hi Lizzie, I'm SO happy to hear this! You're going to have such a great time in India. It was some of the best times of my life! Thank you for reading. Sophie x

Sunday 30th of July 2023

Hi Sophie, I came here via your photos of THE VENNEL Edinburgh. I live in Edinburgh and am also a Solo female traveller a lot of the time. I love your posts and can identify with a lot of what you say. Inspiring!

Monday 31st of July 2023

Hi Marion, amazing and thanks for reading! Wow, I'm jealous you live in Edinburgh. I would love to live there :) Sophie x

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Thursday 19th of September 2019

that's cool, thanks for sharing

Hi Brahim, thanks for reading! Glad you liked the post. Sophie x

Bharat Taxi

Saturday 17th of August 2019

Thank you for sharing the pictures here along with the blog. I really like your wonderful post. I loved to read such kind of article and i happy to be here, thanks for sharing this amazing post.

Wednesday 14th of August 2019

Hi Sophie I’m so glad to know that you are a solo traveler. I hope more women get encouraged by your blogs.

Hi Shelly, Thanks so much for stopping by. My wish is to encourage women to travel more, even if it is solo! Sophie x

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Why I Hate To Travel Alone

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I know it’s a strong statement, but before you make that face, know that this is a companion piece to my other post: Why I Love To Travel Alone . A lot of travelers will tell you need to travel alone at least once in your life. I’m no different. It builds character, it’s easier logistically, and you’ll meet some amazing people out there. But for every good reason to travel solo, there are times when it just sucks. Here’s the other side of that picture before you take that leap.

Wow! Did You See That?

I’ve seen the sun rise and set on 6 of the 7 continents and I can only begin to describe how beautiful some of have been. I’ve hiked through the night and waited on the top of Mount Sinai for the light to arrive and sweep over the valley below. I’ve chanced riding through the jungle on a motorbike in the dark to watch a gorgeous sunset off an island in Indonesia. As amazing as they were, it was a little bittersweet when I realized I was alone at the time and didn’t have anyone to share and remember that moment with.

I couldn’t turn to my right and let out a Wow! Did you see you that? If and when my memory of that moment fades, there will be no one I know that can remind me of those instances.

It Costs How Much For That Taxi?

The same cab ride will cost a quarter as much if you are sharing it with 3 other people. The math is simple enough. Single rooms cost more than doubles. Hiring a private guide will probably cost just as much if he’s leading 2 people versus just you alone. While you don’t have to worry about anyone else when it comes to logistics, it means you have to bear all the costs by yourself.

Table For One At A Tapas Bar

When not to travel alone.

Big cities: I tend to meet people easier in small or remote locations. You’ll generally find like-minded people if you’ve got out of the way to get to Timbuktu or Palau. In places like Barcelona, Havana, or Paris I prefer to arrive with friends.

Places that are expensive: Places like New Zealand and Iceland are notorious for being expensive. It’s much easier on my wallet if I know I can split major expenses like car or Airbnb rentals with multiple people.

Romantic destinations:    Can you picture yourself in Santorini alone? I can’t. These are places best saved for traveling with your significant others.

Note: I’m not saying you can’t go to these places alone. You can. Your mileage may just vary.

I feel like there should be a law against eating tapas alone in Spain. These small dishes are meant to be shared. I don’t mind eating on my own, but it just didn’t feel right in a lively restaurant with a beer and plate full of fried anchovies by myself. With friends, you can try a bit of many dishes. This goes beyond just tapas. Call me a bore, but sometimes I just don’t feel like heading to a club by myself.

Safety In Numbers

If you walk around at night in a dodgy area acting like a drunk tourist, you’ll probably be robbed whether you are with friends or alone, but there is definitely safety in numbers. Personally, I don’t like doing any kind of trek or backcountry camping alone. If something happened to me, it would be pretty hard to get help. It’s just nice to have another person watch your back.

I Get Lonely Too

I’ve sat on a 12 hour bus next to a guy that might have pissed himself and slept through it and on another overnight bus from Amsterdam to London that was stopped 5 times for random drug searches. They weren’t fun and I found myself wishing I had a friend by my side. I’ve strolled down some romantic alleys in Rome, Paris and Prague and being a bit jealous at the couples laughing and enjoying each other’s company. These moments are rare, but they do happen.

I’m even feeling down writing this. This is by no means meant to discourage you from traveling alone. It’s just to let you know that it’s not all parties and serendipitous moments when you’re on the road traveling alone. Sometimes, it sucks. But not often.

Don’t forget to read Why I Love To Travel Alone .

Updated on September 19, 2020

Kien is an international photographer and filmmaker based in Los Angeles. He captures his adventures on whereandwander.com and believes in living for those moments that make the best stories, told or untold. He is working through his bucket list and wants to help others do the same. Follow him on Instagram @hellokien .

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What Rick Steves Hates About Traveling Solo (And How He Avoids It)

Travel pro Rick Steves knows how to have the best trip to Europe.  He encourages people to travel through his PBS show, his guidebooks, and through his tour company Rick Steves Tours. Through all of these endeavors, he offers location-specific tips, but also tips for any destination and for all types of travel. Most of these come from his personal experiences -- and some of Steves' personal travels have been done solo. 

While more people are taking solo trips than ever before, for others, solo travel evokes mixed feelings. It can be exciting to have the freedom to do what you want without worrying about anyone else, but it can also be lonely, and some activities are designed for more than one person and can be awkward to do by yourself. Steves acknowledges that there are some cons to solo travel. "For me, a downside of traveling alone is trying to enjoy fine dinners solo," Steves explained on his website . However, he has still found ways to make this aspect of travel a bit easier.

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If you are uneasy about solo dining during your trip, you may not need to look far to find accompaniment. "If you're feeling sociable, eat in places so crowded and popular that all the tables are shared, or ask other single travelers if they'd like to join you," Rick Steves writes on his website . If you are staying in a hostel, Steves also suggests checking out the hostel's community spaces. Hostels are  a great way to meet new people who are often unique and outgoing. Maybe you can tag along with some of these adventurous folks for a meal or even just a coffee run.

Another way to avoid feeling too alone on a solo trip is by booking a trip with a tour company. "I just wrapped up 12 wonderful days in Portugal — laughing, learning, and exploring with a great group of 25 new friends," Rick Steves stated in a blog post . Sharing the exciting experiences that traveling so often brings with a group of strangers will quickly make them not seem like strangers. Of course, you'll avoid dining alone on a food tour, but even if you take a sightseeing tour, you can always invite your new friends out for dinner. "[T]hat's one of the joys of taking a tour: You have company!" says Steves.

Tour Companies Are Increasingly Accommodating Solo Travelers

While families or friend groups will often travel through tour companies, many of the people on these tours will also be solo travelers. In 2023, Brian FitzGerald of the tour company Overseas Adventure Travel reported to Forbes that half of his company's travelers are going solo. Overseas Adventure Travel is accommodating solo travelers by adding more single spaces on their group trips. Other tour companies, like EF Ultimate Break , even encourage people to sign up solo.

Some tour companies plan out everything for you -- from restaurants to activities to inner city transportation. If this is not appealing, either due to the cost or lack of flexibility, Rick Steves recommends assuaging the potential loneliness of solo travel with a group city walking tour. "You'll learn about the town and meet other travelers, too," he explains. Among the many walking tour companies with guides in multiple cities is SANDEMANs New Europe . These are free tours, but tips for the guides are encouraged. Aside from getting a group feel, walking tours can offer unique, local perspectives and a detailed history of the area.

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Why I Hated Solo Travel But Will Give It A Second Chance

Solo travel isn’t for everyone though some people love it and in fact, prefer it to traveling with others. I’ll start off by saying that there are a few things I actually loved about it; you can read all about them if you scroll to the bottom.

However, my experience has led me to decide that I hate solo travel; I’m too much of a social bug, which is weird because I’m introverted and don’t love large groups. But I do love one-on-one time or small groups that I can joke around with and chat aimlessly to. When you’re used to that kind of travel, it’s pretty difficult to adjust.

If you’re thinking about taking a trip by yourself, DO NOT let my reasons dissuade you from trying. If you read them and you agree 100% with every single one, then perhaps it’s not for you. But if you are at all hesitant, then go! You may find you’ll love it. Even I have to admit that I’d try again if the right opportunity came along.

Why I didn’t love solo travel

No one to remember the trip with you afterwards . This is the hardest for me as I love reminiscing about my travels. We still remember trips we took years ago and will chat about them with fond memories. We’ll even joke with friends about mishaps that happened while traveling with them. It’s a fun way to treasure your friendship/relationship. When you travel by yourself, there’s no one to share that memory with you because only you experienced it. And retelling your story to someone else isn’t quite the same. So you’re left with your memories and experiences.

No one to split driving time with . I road tripped solo in Arizona and it was really challenging to drive the entire time. I know some people love driving and can drive endlessly on a road trip but not me. I am maxed out after about three hours and then I need a break or A LOT of snacks to keep me awake. So I stocked up on food and hit the road. Surprisingly it wasn’t as horrible as I had imagined but I definitely love having someone else to take the wheel when I get drowsy.

Safety concerns . I think we’re more vulnerable in solo travel so I didn’t love having to be constantly wary of my surroundings. I also didn’t feel confident in hiking by myself. Call me crazy but I don’t love hiking alone. I find it boring and if I’m on a trail, I like to have my dog or a human with me. I decided to not hike anything too crazy while solo traveling but instead opted for some popular and tour-based hikes like Upper Antelope Canyon or Horseshoe Bend. There are so many people around that there’s no way you could feel unsafe doing them.

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No one to share a meal with . You might think it strange that I included this but I love trying different foods while traveling. Typically my husband (or my family) and I will each order something and then all split it. Kind of like family style dining. It’s a great way to taste different dishes and get a better feel for what a restaurant has to offer.

More expensive . When you travel alone, you don’t have anyone to split costs with you. If you book a hotel room, you’re stuck paying the full amount and it adds up over time, especially if you’re solo traveling for more than a week. I know some people opt to stay in hostels or private rooms on Airbnb but many people aren’t comfortable with that and so a hotel room is the best option. You’re also stuck paying entirely for a car rental and fuel. All these things do add up eventually.

I missed my guy . Cheesy, right? I’m a pretty independent soul but admittedly, I did miss him much more than what I expected. When you’re with someone every day, you grow to rely on that companionship. It was pretty difficult to chat via phone as we were both busy and sharing about my travels over the phone wasn’t that much fun. On top of that, I knew he’d love to see all the nature and landscape I was getting to see and being on this trip reminded me of the fun we’d had road tripping through Utah.

No one to take photos of you . Some people are amazing at taking photos of themselves, you would never be able to tell looking through their shots. Typically they’ll travel with a tripod, set it up and then use a remote control to snap the picture. I’ve tried tripods and unless I’m shooting somewhere local, I find them cumbersome to drag along. And on top of that, I always feel extremely awkward in a public setting with just me and a tripod. *All the photos in this post were taken by Andrew; I wouldn’t be able to take at least half of them as they were shot in awkward positions, tight spaces or quick street shots.

So there you have it. My crazy reasons for hating solo travel. They’re not for everyone; some people live and breathe solo travel and in fact, hate traveling with others. But we’re all different. And just because I hated these aspects of it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t do it again. In fact, I found it challenging and something that took me out of my comfort zone. And I enjoy those types of situations because I know they will make me grow.

Surprisingly, there were a few things I loved about traveling alone which may convince me to give it another chance. I don’t love being entirely negative on a topic so here are my favorite things about solo travel:

• I had a lot of time to reflect – I was entirely alone with my thoughts for several days and it was a great way to reflect and not have the distractions of anyone else.
• I managed my own time – This was one of my favorite things about solo travel. I could do everything I wanted on my own time. If I wanted to wake up early and get going, I didn’t have to wait for anyone else. If I was tired, I went to bed.
• I didn’t have to feel bad about my schedule – I could pick exactly what I wanted to do that day without having to run it by someone else. When I wanted to hike Horseshoe Bend at sunset, I didn’t have to make sure my companions were cool with it. I just did it. It was freeing.
• There wasn’t anyone to annoy me – For as much as I love companionship, I do still get annoyed at others. I think everyone does. When you’re alone, there’s no one to get on your nerves, except maybe your own voice 😉

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I did a similar trip for my first official solo trip (I don’t count moving to Australia on my own as a solo trip since it was a move or trips on my own to visit friends). I took a road trip from Las Vegas to Northern Arizona and southern Utah (and also visited Page, Arizona!). I had similar feelings to you about the reasons you hated and loved it – I’m not dying to go on another solo road trip (if it was my last I would be okay with that). Buuut I am hoping to and excited for more travel solo more outside of the U.S. where I am not driving by myself – I’m not a big fan of physically driving long distances. If I was on a bus or train I think it could end up being more social or at least I would have the capability to read or write or sleep or do other tasks. And for some reason staying in a hostel in a foreign country feels more natural (and more common) than in the U.S., which is obviously a great way to be more social when you’re alone.

That’s so awesome; sounds like we both had similar ideas! And I agree – I think it’s completely different when you’re going out with people, being social etc. But just a long road trip by yourself is pretty difficult.

Great post! I’ve never solo travelled but have already had such huge respect for those who do. You’ve covered just about everything that would worry me about solo travel! But love that you are willing to give it another go.

You have managed to get pretty good pics on your solo travel. I don’t like to take many pics of me. Solo travel is expensive tht is the only downside I see. It gives a lot more flexibility thats the main reason I love to go solo.. To each their own, enjoy your travels 🙂

Yes, everyone has different preferences 🙂 And also, as mentioned, these photos were taken at various points on different trips with my husband 🙂 I only wish I could get great photos without him! haha!

Travelling solo is tricky. I’ve done a fair bit of it and loved it at the time. Now, I still love the independence and the fact that I can explore at my own pace (a pretty fast pace…) but I miss the companionship. If I travel with my husband, I get to do things I might otherwise neglect but I also have to allow for his tastes… Either way, solo travel is an experience to have! Hope you enjoy it more next time!

I agree! I’m so glad I did it!

I once wrote a post about the perks of travelling with people, because I totally GET WHAT YOU’RE SAYING– doing it alone is rewarding and you don’t have to compromise and you are the queen of your time, but…it’s also harder to get photos, isolating, and the experience is so much more fun when shared with the people you love (friends, a SO, etc.). So glad you wrote this post and I found someone who relates to how I often feel.

Yes exactly! I know a lot of people love to meet new friends on trips but to me, it’s not the same as old friends and family, though I’m sure it’s fun! 🙂

I actually completely agree with you on this and don’t think I’d ever do a road trip or hiking trip solo because I’d be too worried about getting stranded or lost or injured and not have anyone to help but I love solo city trips because I can do whatever I want whenever I want without having to make compromises. Also I usually end up annoyed with anyone I travel with after a couple of days being around them constantly! I think group tours are also a great way to travel solo without worrying about the safety issues. I went on a tour by myself to the Australian outback but met so many lovely people in the group that it was hardly solo travel at all!

My aunt has done group tours and LOVED it! She tried a purely solo trip and didn’t love that as much 🙂

This is a great post! I actually relate to all the reasons for and against. Personally I enjoy solo travel, but I always end up wishing I was experiencing it with someone else! Almost everywhere I’ve visited solo, I’ve come home and said we have to go back so my partner can see it, too! Haha. But I do like being able to do whatever I like on my own time, and to be honest I always stay in hostels so I’m never really alone!

That’s what I told my husband after I came back!! 🙂

I totally agree with everyone you said – I hate solo travel too! Well I shouldn’t say hate, but I probably won’t do it again unless it’s short trip as my husband, kids and friends love travelling. So true about no on to remember it with, and when I did it, I got lonely and bored. The things I did and saw weren’t as interested when I didn’t have someone to share them with. Great post!!

Thank you! I think it’s especially hard when you have such great travel companions 🙂

I’m so glad you have written this post, my daughter found her Solo travelling very difficult for similar reasons to yours and was much happier when her boyfriend joined her. But she missed her girlfriends for 6 months!! Funnily enough when I was her age I had a similar experience which sadly put me off long haul/ long term travel. I find now that I wish I had done more and really hope my daughter hasn’t been put off as I believe travel and seeing the world is one of the great joys we have.

I agree – I absolutely love travel. I just prefer doing it with other people and especially my husband 🙂 I hope she will continue to travel!

Thank you for sharing your experience. I have solo traveled internationally (once) and domestically (once). It is a very rich and different experience. I do not mind traveling with friends or family but I just say that I LOVED solo traveling. I was able to reconnect with people and make new friends. I am planning another solo trip soon and I hope it turns out as good as the others did.

I totally respect that! I know a lot of people who prefer it too! Enjoy your trip 🙂

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6 reasons why I love traveling solo

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It's like adopting a pet or playing an instrument: Taking a solo trip is something everyone must do at least once. 

I, for one, have spent the past three years doing nothing but traveling (in New Zealand, Australia, Southeast Asia, the United Kingdom, and so forth) and much of that time has been spent all by myself. Sure it's been scary, overwhelming, and a little bit lonely at times, but the many joys I get from wandering around foreign places on my own makes it all more than worthwhile.

Solo travel has done wonders for my confidence, my budget, my creativity, even my life at home. Here are six reasons why I love traveling alone.

It saves me money.

Call me a cheap date, but I'll take a picnic in the park over Michelin-rated restaurants and trendy cocktail bars any day. 

Fortunately for me, my travel style is inherently cheap, but I often feel pressured to compromise on my budget to please other people. I, for instance, don't feel compelled to visit every museum while visiting a city, but when Jack is especially interested in one and Sally is more excited about another, I end up following along passively, leaving a trail of admission fees in my wake.

Traveling solo gives me more control over my spending so that I can ultimately travel for longer — months instead of weeks, if I so fancy — and more often.

It's a challenge.

There are two ways to cross the border into Vietnam from Laos: by a perfectly comfortable one-hour flight or a 24-hour bus ride.

I opted for the latter, of course, because it just so happened to be $100 cheaper. Along the way, I lost all my money to an unscrupulous border agent who massively inflated the stamping fee, leaving me penniless and desperately hungry when I finally arrived in Hanoi. I had to barter for a tuk-tuk ride to my hostel.

I could have easily felt scared and lonely during this experience, but instead I felt especially independent and empowered. I had communicated with a bus driver who didn't speak a lick of English (for 24 hours!) and ended up exactly where I was supposed to end up, even without money. If you had merely told me I could be this resourceful, I wouldn't have believed it. 

So, yes, I've been challenged by faulty offline maps, language barriers (try telling anyone in Asia that you're vegan ), and car batteries in foreign countries, but standing on the side of the road jingling a pair of jump leads gets a little bit easier each time. In fact, I've come to believe that asking for help — even through broken English and hand gestures — can be sort of fun.

It gives me a break from socializing.

Before I started exploring places on my own, I thought travel was downright exhausting. As it turns out, it's constantly being around people that demands so much from me, thanks to my social anxiety.

I find that being able to choose when to interact with people is the key.

Sure, talking to strangers is part of the deal, but traveling solo allows me to switch my people skills on and off on my own time. I've learned to sit alone in a cafe full of people and be content with just the company of myself.

And it also forces me to socialize.

In the same vein, not knowing anyone at my destination coaxes me out of my introvert shell. I'm no longer able to stand in the background while my boyfriend talks with the hotel receptionist, for instance, or convince my friend to ask a local for directions. 

When I do feel like socializing, I'm forced to branch out and make new friends rather than limit my interactions to the people I'm already comfortable with. As a result, I now have connections and Facebook friends in just about every part of the world.

I get to know my destination better.

If I'm not focused on the people I'm with, then I'm left to concentrate entirely on the place. I connect more with my destination on a personal level when I'm wandering around on my own, and I learn more about it, too. 

My solo travels are like a Googling frenzy: histories of old buildings, names of street artists, types of flowers I see while strolling through a park. This, in fact, is exactly why I currently have a book about wildflowers of the Canadian Rockies in my Amazon shopping cart.

And I get to know myself better, too.

I've acquired enough world trivia to fill a textbook thanks to solo travel, but I've also learned a whole lot about myself. Cliche as it may be, having control over my own itinerary has taught me what it is that makes me happy — journaling, gallery hopping, Vietnamese coffee, eating every savory pie in England — which I am then able to adapt to my everyday life at home. 

Needless to say, I have a lot more interests and hobbies these days (like exploring my own region , for one) and never am I hesitant to pursue them on my own. Traveling solo has taught me not to wait for other people to have fun. Being in the company of my partner, my friends, and my family is wonderful, don't get me wrong, but there's certainly nothing wrong with being a party of one, whether it be halfway around the world or in my own backyard.

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Many people find the idea of traveling solo terrifying, but it might just be the best thing you ever do..

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After traveling nonstop for over eight years, I prefer traveling solo , an idea that frightens many people. When the economy tanked in 2008, I quit my jobs and spent a year globetrotting. (Recessions aren’t good for freelance photographers.) It was my first long-term solo adventure—eight countries in 13 months. I booked the flight and never looked back.

If you have never tried it, here are ten reasons why you should travel solo:

1. It expands your comfort zone

The only way to overcome fear is to do the things you fear. Almost everything I do scares me. I hate heights, so I went bungee jumping in New Zealand . I find the idea of being alone in a foreign city where I don’t speak the language to be exhilarating. The courage and confidence gained from traveling alone can transform every aspect of your life, including your career.

2. You can be master of your own schedule

Traveling solo is the ultimate freedom. Eat pancakes for breakfast everyday. Get up at sunrise to go hiking, or spend your afternoons reading in a hammock. No dragging your night-owl friends out of bed to catch an early flight. And, most importantly, no fighting over what to eat for dinner! You do what you want when you want. No waiting. No silly fights. No questions.

3. It allows you to learn about yourself

I consider travel to be an education—an in-depth look at world history and yourself. I had a master’s degree by age 25 and lived on four continents by the time I was 27. There is a clarity that comes from being 5,000 miles away from everything familiar and all of the things that influence your decisions. It cleared my head of society’s expectations and allowed me to simplify my goals and priorities to build the life I wanted, which involved traveling for a living.

4. It’s easier to make new friends

The easiest way to meet people is to travel alone. It forces you to be more outgoing than normal, and it makes you more approachable. Conversations with strangers are easier and more natural because they revolve around simple questions like “Where are you going?” and “Where are you from?” Plus, other travelers are the best resource for recommendations on food, transport, and accommodation.

I met the majority of my closest friends while traveling. Each one started as a chance meeting in an unlikely place—a pub in chilly Northern England , the humid streets of Luang Prabang. I couldn’t imagine my life without these people.

5. It’s easier to plan

The stress of planning is significantly reduced when you only have to plan for one. It’s easier to find a single spare seat on a last-minute flight or a sold-out bus. Plus, you don’t have to coordinate multiple work and vacation schedules. I usually leave my options open by booking a one-way flight.

6. You’re more likely to stay within your budget

It’s easier to stay within your budget when you are traveling solo. Everyone has different comfort levels, which can lead to drastic price differences for accommodation, food, and transport. I usually prefer to walk or take public transport, both for the experience and to save money. I’ve traveled with friends who insist on taking taxis everywhere because they can’t take the crowds and heat.

7. No regrets

The best way to live the life you daydream about is to travel alone. If I want to do something, I find a way to make it happen. Sometimes it can take weeks, months, or years. I refuse to spend my life waiting on other people. If friends can join me for an adventure, then great. If not, then I go alone. When I’m 80 years old, I will never say, “Man, I regret that year I spent living in Australia and those two months I spent hiking in Patagonia .

8. Minimalism

I was THAT girl. The one dragging two suitcases twice her size through the airport. Thankfully, that girl has learned to carry on her luggage. Nothing teaches you about minimalism better than a long-term solo trip. When you are alone, there’s no one to watch your luggage while you run to the bathroom or grab a coffee. An overload of luggage makes any traveler an easy target for thieves and unwanted attention. Plus, giant bags will kill your back, energy level, and mood.

9. Singing in the car

The best part of road trips is singing horribly loud to your favorite ‘90s mix with no one to judge you or roll their eyes. Nothing makes the miles pass as quickly as singing and dancing in the car!

10. Inspire others

My courage to travel solo across five continents has inspired my friends to take advantage of gaps of time to join me for a small part of a trip or to take their own journey. I am the excuse people use to travel and face their fears. Be the inspiration for your friends to take that trip to Cuba or hike Kilimanjaro!